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Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should? Nowadays, people are just tiresome and annoying sometimes(or all the time depending on the person) that it really gets to me. Sometimes I just want to be alone but they way things are now in my life isolating is not healthy. I mean I don't mind socializing and all, but I am too lazy for it. So, is isolating really all that bad? Some people think that it's good while others do not. I guess it depends on the person though.

What do you think?
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Your socializing right now aren't you?
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Rujikin wrote:

Your socializing right now aren't you?


True. But I'm talking about more face to face socializing though.

Sorry for not properly explaining better.
Posted 7/12/17
socializing is important

If you have the choice between isolation and socializing, go for the social route. I understand if you need alone time to recharge and what not though.
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Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should? Nowadays, people are just tiresome and annoying sometimes(or all the time depending on the person) that it really gets to me. Sometimes I just want to be alone but they way things are now in my life isolating is not healthy. I mean I don't mind socializing and all, but I am too lazy for it. So, is isolating really all that bad? Some people think that it's good while others do not. I guess it depends on the person though.

What do you think?


There's a limit as to how much socializing one person can do at any given time. Even those who are far more extroverted have a "limit". I think that isolation away from other humans for a prolonged period of time can make one's perspective a bit jaded and detached from the world around them.

For example, my brother used to be an OTR trucker - lived out of his truck, didn't speak to anyone in person, and would only post on various forums. These days, he's cynical of humanity and thinks that life is better without anyone even talking to him. He's also on the verge of homelessness due to how these views have influenced his patience with other people in general and would rather be homeless and dying than to deal with another human being (he's jobless and a friend of his is sheltering him).

I would agree that it "depends on the person". Like I said, there's a limit as to how much one person can handle. Be it that your threshold isn't as prolonged as the person who's telling you to "socialize more" - that doesn't mean that you're cutting out socialization, just limiting it below your threshold. Everyone does this, just in various degrees ("threshold may vary").
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What defines "normally should"? So long as it's not hurting yourself or others it seems like a healthy adult of sound mind should be able to determine how much or how little they interact with other people. It'll probably impact your social life, but that's kind of your decision to make.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should? Nowadays, people are just tiresome and annoying sometimes(or all the time depending on the person) that it really gets to me. Sometimes I just want to be alone but they way things are now in my life isolating is not healthy. I mean I don't mind socializing and all, but I am too lazy for it. So, is isolating really all that bad? Some people think that it's good while others do not. I guess it depends on the person though.

What do you think?


There's a limit as to how much socializing one person can do at any given time. Even those who are far more extroverted have a "limit". I think that isolation away from other humans for a prolonged period of time can make one's perspective a bit jaded and detached from the world around them.

For example, my brother used to be an OTR trucker - lived out of his truck, didn't speak to anyone in person, and would only post on various forums. These days, he's cynical of humanity and thinks that life is better without anyone even talking to him. He's also on the verge of homelessness due to how these views have influenced his patience with other people in general and would rather be homeless and dying than to deal with another human being (he's jobless and a friend of his is sheltering him).

I would agree that it "depends on the person". Like I said, there's a limit as to how much one person can handle. Be it that your threshold isn't as prolonged as the person who's telling you to "socialize more" - that doesn't mean that you're cutting out socialization, just limiting it below your threshold. Everyone does this, just in various degrees ("threshold may vary").



That is a very grim way of thinking but it does happen. It's strange because I thought like that at one point in my life too.

I kind of have to socialize at some point because I have a habit that I need to break. But I can only do so much too.

So there is a limit as well.
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qualeshia3 wrote:
That is a very grim way of thinking but it does happen. It's strange because I thought like that at one point in my life too.

I kind of have to socialize at some point because I have a habit that I need to break. But I can only do so much too.

So there is a limit as well.


Yeah. I think the important thing is that the only "normal level of socializing" that exists is whatever your personal threshold can handle. Those who are ridiculously extroverted can handle weeks of prolonged social interaction with hordes, upon hordes of people without needing a "cooldown" (time alone). Not everyone exists in this world; their limit is much more limited.

I think, at the end of the day, it's best to have some socializing in your life outside of the Internet (face-to-face interaction) to avoid falling into a self-limited perception (like that of my brother or some Internet users/posters). I would say that the longer one isolates themselves, the lower their threshold/limit will be. When that reaches a negative value, that's when it becomes a problem for both the person and those who care about them.
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What defines "normally should"?



Like you go days or weeks without human interaction or maybe even longer depending on the person.
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Yeah. I think the important thing is that the only "normal level of socializing" that exists is whatever your personal threshold can handle. Those who are ridiculously extroverted can handle weeks of prolonged social interaction with hordes, upon hordes of people without needing a "cooldown" (time alone). Not everyone exists in this world; their limit is much more limited.

I think, at the end of the day, it's best to have some socializing in your life outside of the Internet (face-to-face interaction) to avoid falling into a self-limited perception (like that of my brother or some Internet users/posters). I would say that the longer one isolates themselves, the lower their threshold/limit will be. When that reaches a negative value, that's when it becomes a problem for both the person and those who care about them.


Thanks for this advice.
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As much as I do appreciate being alone and not being forced to have to interact with people, I'm also pretty sure that the loneliness is the source of my depression, which makes me not want to interact with people, etc, negative downward sprial and what not.

I need to get out more but I ceebs.
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It's only bad if you're doing it to the point where it starts to degrade your social skills.
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Isolating from everyone for a long amount of time can make it difficult to uphold relationships. That's all
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too much of it is a bad thing like anything else
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should? Nowadays, people are just tiresome and annoying sometimes(or all the time depending on the person) that it really gets to me. Sometimes I just want to be alone but they way things are now in my life isolating is not healthy. I mean I don't mind socializing and all, but I am too lazy for it. So, is isolating really all that bad? Some people think that it's good while others do not. I guess it depends on the person though.

What do you think?


(So, is Q-girl actually Futaba from the Persona 5 game? Nah, she was cooler.
I just can't see Q typing that with that big Chinese mask on her head.)
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