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Posted 7/12/17

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It's only bad if you're doing it to the point where it starts to degrade your social skills.


Pretty much this. Everyone needs alone time, but socializing is very important to your health. Shut in's tend to be selfish. They don't care about or show interest in anything but themselves. That's not a healthy view to have.
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I've been way healthier as a complete shut in than when I had attempted to create and maintain social relationships.



Social isolation is the best. Just my jigsaw puzzle and I--quality alone time right there.

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Shut in's tend to be selfish. They don't care about or show interest in anything but themselves. That's not a healthy view to have.


Or, you know, are people with mental or emotion problems they're struggling with that make socializing difficult.

But yeah, totally selfishness.

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zangeif123 wrote:
Shut in's tend to be selfish. They don't care about or show interest in anything but themselves. That's not a healthy view to have.


Or, you know, are people with mental or emotion problems they're struggling with that make socializing difficult.

But yeah, totally selfishness.



"tend to" is in there buddy.
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zangeif123 wrote:
"tend to" is in there buddy.


"tend to" is still a generalization and one that implies a majority.

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People are misusing words way too much, everything is selfish, narcissistic or racist nowadays. Being a shut-in has nothing to do with selfishness, like someone said, half of the time, the person has mental issues like grief, depression or dealing with pressure, the other half has to do with the tolerance of people. Shut-ins just don't tolerate people as well as extroverts, especially when the people aren't very accepting of them. The more judgemental you are of them like the above post demonstrated, the more they withdraw themselves because they're not able to tolerate the bullshit very well.
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I'm no social butterfly but like, I imagine things like pheromones and oxytocin are received and important in communication that is exclusive to face-to-face interaction.
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It depends. If you isolate yourself because you're sick of people and just want some time alone to recharge and de-stress, then it's okay. If you're isolating yourself because you're afraid of the risks that come with interacting with people, because you can't work up the energy needed to socialize, or because you hate yourself, then there is a problem.
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I want to isolate myself with one other person or maybe a group of 5-6 people.
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I started to be a true loner wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy back. I was probably around 8 to 10.

With being the youngest in the family, I was actually left at home alone when I was 5. So, being a lonely little kid. I started spending a lot of time at other kids homes. Actually, toooooo much time. I became a bother, and after a while if I felt I was a bother I couldn't go there anymore.

I am still very much that way. If I feel that I am a bother, I just stop contacting. I can't call to see what someone is up to or to see if I can come to visit.

There was a time when I didn't have any contact with my family, 8 years or so. Even though we only like a few miles apart. Why you ask? It is simple, they didn't call or contact me to see what was going on. I couldn't call because I didn't want to be a bother.

I loved one family I was friends with. I could call them and the first words they would say was "Hi Dave, how are you?" Followed immediately by "Come over!!!!!" and they meant it. They have all passed now, and I still miss them.

So to answer your question. "Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should?" I think it is, but I can't change now.

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Humans no matter what are social creatures.
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I have no problem talking to people. I can figure out if I don't like you.

That being said. Most people.... they just annoy me at times. I'm not the greatest socializer, but I just feel so annoyed. I can't understand people my age most of the time.

Maybe it's just me. Whatever, I'm a quiet guy, I don't really like talking, but I do. It's like I have more knowledge of my story than anything else in the world right now, so I really don't know how to approach people. I can't lie to myself anymore.

It's like I just lie to people by talking to them, because I'm not even Interested, I just have to talk to people because people know I'm a good person, and people tell me that they trust me, because I go out of my way for them. Ask me to do something and I will. I'm not good with this whole assimilation thing, I don't know what else I can say anymore.

I'm more worried about fictional lives, because at least I can be myself there's a reason for my madness. I never begin something that wont have purpose. Much can be said about my social life.

And the cycle lives on.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should? Nowadays, people are just tiresome and annoying sometimes(or all the time depending on the person) that it really gets to me. Sometimes I just want to be alone but they way things are now in my life isolating is not healthy. I mean I don't mind socializing and all, but I am too lazy for it. So, is isolating really all that bad? Some people think that it's good while others do not. I guess it depends on the person though.

What do you think?


What do you mean you wanna be alone but it's not healthy? I would say more than half the people who frequent Crunchyroll are probably lone wolves.

I know why people -- mostly men -- would want to be lone wolves and isolate themselves from people.

I've been on both ends of the spectrum:

There was a point in my life where I was a social butterfly and I would feel lonely easily if others weren't around, so I kept my life packed to the brim with people, both friends and "friends".

Another point in my life was that I would get attached to certain individuals(2 or 3) and I would be fine as long as one of them were around, but otherwise, I was in isolation.

Currently, I'm not so easily shaken and for the first time in my entire life, I feel like with or without people, I'd be fine.
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I feel like a long stretch of isolation can be damaging to mental health and social skills.
I just moved to a 1200 miles from my home to a place where I know no one and it has been tough being isolated and having no one to turn to.
I feel like it is important to have at least a couple people around to interact with at least semi-regularly.
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Life is all about balance. If you feel like you're alone more than out socializing, then you should probably go out more. Same can be said the other way. You just have to do what will make you happiest.
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