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Meh, I don't think so but when you do not socialize or care... well people tend to take offense to stuff that you cannot really tell. Like me, I am getting in trouble for my cats not covering their poo or pee. Apparently it makes my apartment smell bad, and that goes into the hall... not that I can tell. So I bet if I cannot figure this out I am going to likely get evicted... I wish I could buy a house.
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I think too much isolation or isolation for extended periods would eventually lead to forms of loneliness, depression, bordem and possible even madness.

Iam a bit of a funny person, iam both very social but fairly anti social at the same time. It's hard to explain but i go through phases. I've had phases of my life where i was quiet and shy but that didn't make me isolated and phases where i was not like that and very social.
I guess i've always had friends and used to be part of a big circle and go out alot but i have always loved time to myself and always been a gamer and i do recall times in the past where i would wish to be left alone and wished for more alone time and would socialize even if i didn't overly want to.
I've always enjoyed being by myself, i have lots of hobbies. Iam not really the sort to get bored or lonley but i think that is because i've always had a good ballance of being a anti social hermit but also being quite the opposite.
I think i used to prefer hanging in very small groups for a time, then i prefered larger groups and now i've gone back to liking smaller groups again.

Eh i dunno i've spent alot of time over my life gaming and chilling watching anime or listenng to music, drawing, making music, drinking alone, etc lived alone for some extended periods also.
Whilst all of that is good and makes me happy i think it can make you go a little bit mad lol and i think when you get older it could lead to feeling lonley or depressed and bored.

But i think as long as you have a job, so you're at least around people at work, and have a couple of friends and some family members that you catch up with its ok.
But i had a mate who did not work, lived at home, and as you get older you have less and less friends or less and less things to do because people are busy with adult life and responsibilities and sort of move on and leave you behind a bit and he showed signs or extreme bordem and signs of loneliness.
He acted obsessive or like a stalker towards the end. He got really deep in a hole with drugs and booze and it ended leading to his death.

But i guess everyone is different. I still love my alone time but now that iam older, whilst i can act anti social and avoid people at times, sometimes now it's not a choice, sometimes there is just literally nothing to do because when you get older you tend to have less friends.





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anti-freeze wrote:

Meh, I don't think so but when you do not socialize or care... well people tend to take offense to stuff that you cannot really tell. Like me, I am getting in trouble for my cats not covering their poo or pee. Apparently it makes my apartment smell bad, and that goes into the hall... not that I can tell. So I bet if I cannot figure this out I am going to likely get evicted... I wish I could buy a house.


I often go to the grocery store without my pants...I wonder why I get such strange reactions.
I think it's a problem with socializing in our current society--I don't see why we have to go out shopping in public anyway, what with so many new online ways to have our groceries home-delivered, now...

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You want to be a hikikomori? If you are making money to support yourself sure why not.
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TBH yeah it is. My depressions steams from my environmental and lack of social contact. I've been isolated for years
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Depends on the person. It's like the saying, too much of anything is a bad thing. That doesn't just go for isolation, that goes for being social as well. Too much time alone/too much time with others will either mean you're entirely influenced by yourself, or entirely influenced by others. So both are necessary in moderation. I've generally found with life that you're better off never completely going down one end of the spectrum. Doing one thing too much will mess you up, regardless of what it is. Even if you hate it, you've got to spend time doing the opposite as well.

There was a time in my life where I was so social I had no time to myself and eventually went crazy. Palmed off all my friends and family and just isolated myself for a long time. Then I blew up from that too, so now I'm somewhere in between XD.
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Humans are expendable objects. Once they've been useful and begin to get on your nerves often, dump them like acid and move onto the next ones. No grief and you get what you want
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nope it's good to be a hermit/hikkimori
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Cowarecool wrote:

Depends on the person. It's like the saying, too much of anything is a bad thing. That doesn't just go for isolation, that goes for being social as well. Too much time alone/too much time with others will either mean you're entirely influenced by yourself, or entirely influenced by others. So both are necessary in moderation. I've generally found with life that you're better off never completely going down one end of the spectrum. Doing one thing too much will mess you up, regardless of what it is. Even if you hate it, you've got to spend time doing the opposite as well.

There was a time in my life where I was so social I had no time to myself and eventually went crazy. Palmed off all my friends and family and just isolated myself for a long time. Then I blew up from that too, so now I'm somewhere in between XD.


Yeah sounds like you're similar to me.
But i didn't dump friends really, some i just kinda avoid or grew appart from and some died.
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I'm not good at moderation. I like socializing with friends, new and old. However, when a social streak ends, I can disappear from the public for even months if there is no incentive to socialize again. In the end, I do enjoy both interactions and isolation.
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Yes it's a person to person thing. But socialising is the only really why Humans don't go bat shit crazy. We have been pack animals since our known existence.
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Depends on the person. I would probably enjoy being treated like I don't exist every once in a while.
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I don't like socializing because everyone I have ever tried to befriend(and family) expects me to put in the effort while they just do what they want to do.

Socializing is something that people need to put equal amounts of effort into there interactions. Otherwise the ones doing all the work will leave and not come back(yet they are the ones who are considered to be the anti-social ones).

It all seems so backwards, I want to be social, but I don't want to be the one following 24/7, I don't want to be the one putting up with doing what I don't like/or can't get into.

People are selfish, whether they are normally introverted or extroverted.

I would say that I am extroverted, but I see no reason to be when everyone is so self centered and thinks only of themselves. That is the problem with people these days. Views are skewed in favor of those who speak first and the loudest, that doesn't make them right.

I choose not to interact with others because they don't give a shit about anyone's feelings, they label me as a sociopath but they fail to realize I think more of others than I have seen them even try.

I have tried, so much so it was literally degrading my views on others while doing so. All I ever did was chase, while they looked ahead and never once glanced back at me(Metaphor). It's like I was invisible to them.

This is why I don't go out to meet people, it's far to exhausting, especially when the relationships are only filled with drama that needs to be fixed 24/7.

That's just the way people are these days, there is no real meaning to interaction besides self satisfaction and fulfillment of ones desire to be around others.
That is NOT socializing. That is sociopathic behavior. Sociopathy is considered the norm. So I say FUCK THAT.
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super lame that people have been manipulated so much they are told being alone is negative.

this is what happens when you isolate yourself from others. you perceive yourself as your own reality and begin experiencing genetic, spiritual, reality based changes. everything becomes more.

society looks down on this because those that choose to leave behind conformity also tend to be more difficult to manipulate, often impossible, and also go through a period of figuring out things all over again once you start recognizing you've been lied to your entire life. everything you read from the accepted knowledge base of society is going to work towards breaking you down as much as possible so that you think you gotta rely on others.

as soon as you isolate yourself and are comfortable, you'll experience a rapid speed up of all you perceive. spiritual books call this a quickening, while i find any attempt to simplify what you begin to experience can diminish and hinder your experiences.

all the difficulty after any beyond light experience involves being around others to speak accurately to the way we really are instead of repeating the same stuff you got used to hearing and saying, such as using references. and without the simplifications of references, the only way to really express yourself accurately is by letting go of everything until you do. while being around others, society groupies tend to want you to speak immediately while you don't really know wtf to say until you do. especially when your experiences in isolation is everything all at once.

and no you don't have to isolate yourself to experience real real... its all about ceasing to believe in mind, thought, and other repetitive ways to look at yourself.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Is it wrong to isolate yourself from people longer than you normally should? Nowadays, people are just tiresome and annoying sometimes(or all the time depending on the person) that it really gets to me. Sometimes I just want to be alone but they way things are now in my life isolating is not healthy. I mean I don't mind socializing and all, but I am too lazy for it. So, is isolating really all that bad? Some people think that it's good while others do not. I guess it depends on the person though.

What do you think?


I think we need to get physical qualeshia don't be shy maybe this will cheer you up.

https://youtu.be/6zwPVU92-XQ

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