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High self esteem NOT arrogance
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High self esteem: Yeah, I can do that. Probably better than a lot of people (but I don't say it out loud).

Arrogance: Hell yeah, I can do that. I'm better than almost everybody!

Arrogance is being overconfident to the point you cause problems, and/or being a jerk about things you can do that others can't.

EDIT: Comic book superheros are confident. Comic book supervillains are arrogant.
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runec wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:
I'm sexy and I know it.



I trust I'm not the only one who read that and got the music cue in their head =/







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Don't be an asshole is the advice I imagine working here. Don't be so self centered to expect people to care about your minute accomplishments that one has brought up into conversation. Do not go compliment fishing. All that good stuff.
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Hm... Worrying about your dreams, ideals, future plans, and worldview is probably more important than worrying about your esteem issues...
Posted 7/13/17

runec wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:
I'm sexy and I know it.



I trust I'm not the only one who read that and got the music cue in their head =/







I did
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BoredGreen wrote:

Hm... Worrying about your dreams, ideals, future plans, and worldview is probably more important than worrying about your esteem issues...


So, you should think of yourself as crap but consider your dreams and ideals fantastic?
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I do think there's a difference between carrying ourselves as if we're capable and treating others as if they're incapable. Arrogance is annoying only because of the latter.
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I have high self-esteem and am arrogant af, but I don't give a damn about anyone else's opinion of me haha.
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There is a big difference between someone with high self esteem/confidence and someone who is arrogant.
I mean sometimes the two go hand in hand but being confident is not the same as being arrogant.
If you are really confident and strong minded that dose not mean that you think you are better than everyone or more important than everyone or always right, it just means that you feel good about yourself and are not filled with self doubt or being so worried or affraid of what others might think.
A confident person may think that they are better or smarter than others but that's because they probably actually are. Like of course you are going to have high self esteem if you actually are really good at things and are better than other people at things.
For some this leads to over confidence and cockyness and arrogance.
Yes some people with high self esteem are arseholes to other people and may target those without self esteem. But it can also go both ways in the way of people with less self esteem may be bitter and jealous and be hating the people with high self esteem.

Not to talk about myself too much but i have lived as both someone with very little self esteem to someone with high self esteem.
I can tell you that life is very different for each.
Thinking back i cannot belive how low my self esteem was for a time there. Iam not sure how or why i was like that. But i also am not sure how to get back the level of high self esteem i had for a period there either.
I will admit that i went from having zero to then alot and just for a period i got a bit cocky. But i think that was only because i went from being weak to being strong and just for a moment i got carried away.
But even then i would not be a bully or a rude arragont prick or a cunt.

I think the most arragont people i have ever met are often not the sporty guys who are good at sport and with women, they're often more geeky sort of guys who think they're so smart(smarter than everyone else and very judgemental).
And it's usually in an environment where they are behind a keyboard or protected by numbers or being somewhere where nothing(physical) can happen to them lol.

I once had a team leader who was a bit of an arrogant prick. And yet he was one of those guys that didn't mind dishing it out to everyone yet couldn't handle copping it back.

And my old housemate, he is a total loner. No friends. Bit geeky, extremely good at drawing and painting and building cosplay armor and these sort of things. Yet he can be extremely arrogant.
And yet sometimes someone being quiet can be mistaken for arrogance or snobbyness.

Yeah so people like him SHOULD have high self esteem and know he is great at certain things, funnily enough he dose not boast or brag about this. He is considered arrogant becasue some people he just will not talk to or respond to, like he wont even reply or show acknowlegdement. lol


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I see a fuckload of people who claim they just have high confidence but I don't buy it.
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I'm sexy and I know it.



^ she got it
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Many people with low self-esteem feel this way, I think. They want to feel better about themselves and be more confident without becoming the pretentious jerks they've encountered all their lives. It's possible to be sure of yourself and still be considerate of other people. This would be the kind of person who isn't easily hurt or stressed out in social situations but has the awareness to realize when they have too many items to be in the express lane at the supermarket.
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Does anyone here with low self-esteem feel this way? Like they want to feel good about themselves and have high self-esteem but not be an arrogant person. What do you think?



No matter what you do or what you say you will offend someone. Either keep your head down and OBEY or say what you want to say and get attacked, within common sense of course.

I had the same situation then I went from a self-hating liberal to an independent and life got a lot better :D. Feel good because 100,000 years of evolution, plague, warfare, and yet somehow your ancestors survived all of that to create you. You should try gaining patriotism and loving your country it also helps not self-hating your country.
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i think there's nothing wrong with being confident and acting confident as long as you're not being a total douche and acting like gods gift and looking down on everyone else.
Being confident is good. Being mean to other people becaue you think you're so good or trying to use others and put them down to make you look or feel better is not.

I guess some people in some professions almost have to be cocky and somewhat arrogant. Like boxers and rappers. Welll they have to boast alot anyhow.

But knowing that you are good at something when you indeed are is good and being confident enough to do what you're good at is good. But being humble is good also.

Having low self esteem sucks. It used to hold me back so dam much. I was so worried about what other people might think or other peoples opinions. Had so much self doubt.
Screw being like that.

I still dont know how some people are so dammed confident about everything though and never get embarrassed about anything at all. Never seem to fear losing or failing or rejection or crittercism at all.

I think for me personally having people in my life that gave me praise and encouragement really helped me alot. To come out of my shell.
I think finding things that you're good at and certian experiences in life can make a person with low self esteem gain some.

Guess it can go the other way as well though. You can have it and lose it. Some people seem to be either born with or without it as well i guess.






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