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Post Reply Why do people who are a few years older than someone act mean?
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24 / F / Capsule Hotel
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Posted 7/19/17
Because they're miserable. I pray they find peace in their lives.
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because when we were younger we were too dumb to know better and now facepalm at the thought of how dumb we were. and then younger people come along and do the same dumb crap we did.

frickin' young people always gotta be ruining our hope for a better future like we did for our elders.
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Considering my age, Im at the receiving end for now, but let me say that the kind of meanness I get is more a belittling than anything else. I'm going into my senior year at a small private high school, and there's less than twenty in my class, so we all know each other pretty well. We're all friends, but whenever they recall that I'm a year or two younger than them, they begin treating me like a baby, giving me extraneous advice about whatever we're doing, acting as if I have no idea what I'm doing even though I'm at the top of the class. It's not terrible, and they have no intention of being mean to me, but it bugs me just as much as when " all knowing" non musical adults comment "very good." when I've just finished playing a Beethoven piano sonata for practice.
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Ask yourself. I'm mean to jack asses, and when I happen to be in a nasty mood for entirely unrelated reasons. I don't particularly give a damn about age; if you get on my nerves, it'll be obvious.
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I just wanna make a disclaimer that I'm not saying that this is right or wrong, good or bad, that' it's always negative or always positive. That's not really what I'm getting at or even care to discuss I'm just trying to lay out more or less how things are. Also there are gonna be some opinion pieces in as well.


I think a lot of it has been ingrained in our culture and thus conditioned into us. I think that modern culture still continues to play with hierarchic/archaic views of the world, and dare I say laud them around as being based in reality (Which is questionable). When it's more based on something reminiscent of power structures of yore, that still serve as the foundation for how we see the world, ourselves, and how we choose to conduct our relationships with everything other than ourselves.

There's religion that pretty much has been the greatest influence, bar none and is usually a hierarchy (or at least the majority of them have been and it sets the foundation for most societies today, and that pretty much determines the rules of society). At the end of the day we always see someone above us whether that be celebrities, parents, teachers, bosses, If were in school people that are a grade above you, that random person who's really attractive, really smart, really strong, really skilled, some god, you know the list is endless.

How? Because on some level there is a some lack that makes us inferior, some "brokenness", original sin, something we don't have but we need to get, etc. This serves the basis for how we compare ourselves to others to participate in the game. A good example is marketing and the ways they persuade you by poking or making holes in your psyche to sell you on an idea to sell you things.

It's okay though cause there are rules of all kinds depending on wherever you live that if we follow just might save us from our inferiority and/or let us get higher up the latter and and relish over the fact that there are people below us(Though a lot of the time it can be at the cost of ourselves cause we're following it with not much autonomy, always at odds with our actual desires outside of all the conditioning) However if we don't we'll be punished usually in some fashion to some degree, whether that be actual physical punishment, humiliation, someones physical or verbal punching bag, ostracization, etc.

Since it's embedded in society and embedded in our mind it (Hierarchy) changes it's clothes and plays out on some level in our relationships, Schools, Jobs, Religion.

Now my opinion is that with this all in place it isn't a stretch to say that this can make someone kinda warped regardless of the power position they hold in society. If someone is beneath you in some fashion we can justify being an ass to someone based on the "logic" that they're "below" me (However you choose to define that) so they deserve it.

To tie in the Question asked, if your like 18 and someone is a few years older than you at work, you know School and the way the students like to conduct themselves is very much hierarchical, it still lingers, it makes it's way into the jobs, and like I said above it plays out in pretty much everything to varying degrees.

Though not everyone sees the world in this way. Beyond this there are other ways to look and interact with the world. You can participate, see the game for what it is, on whatever level that might be, and actually treat people well. However if you fuck up and over step a boundary, act like an ass, do something stupid, people are probably gonna treat you harsh, but it's for an actual reason, and I don't consider that being mean, unless they go too far with it then that's just fucked.
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