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Posted 8/2/17

QueenVapora wrote:

I was thinking since this is my second account here and had been in some ways cyberbullied on my old one, how do most people deal with cyberbullying here on cr? and I don't mean just the forums I mean everywhere from pms to groups


ignore the trolls and move on.

if you have to do something then report and move on
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The CR community is pretty "mediocre-at-best", but cyberbullying is a thing that I haven't seen often here. At least in public view. I have gotten a few insulting posts at times, but I just usually ignore it or insult them back and move on. You can't really let stuff like that get to you.
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It's sad to see cyber bullying. Didn't know it still exists.
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riverjustice wrote:
It's sad to see cyber bullying. Didn't know it still exists.
Why are you sad about it?
These sort of things will always be there, and why we have moderation/admins to more things.
That this goes on at a younger age is a sad thing indeed.

I don't agree with going into court unless there is something more to it than what OP tells us or would want to tell us.
Although stating all of this while making a new account, doesn't it mean you have to make another new one now too?
Posted 8/2/17 , edited 8/3/17
I haven't been cyberbullied ever but I have been harassed on here plenty
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Velvet_Crowe wrote:

I haven't been cyperbullied ever but I have been harassed on here plenty


you dont say
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You literally just have to ignore them. Or just straight up put on a show so they out themselves.
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Posted 8/3/17 , edited 8/3/17

AnimeAddictANN69 wrote:

it's always a lengthy process when it comes to the legal system in this country.

I'm a contractor so i can prepare a case during my free time so i'm ready to sue anybody-- the thing is there's no one to sue for me.

There's legal help available if needed, look up pro bono lawyers


I'm sure you can find legal assistance available for free without having to hire a lawyer. I heard pro bono lawyers have too many cases around here... If it's $3500 and under i would just prepare the case yourself

I would choose the "garnishing wages" as the option. or just have them pay for your court costs along with the restraint order would be sufficient. The time you took off from work, going to court, preparing your case, etc.. will not be compensated unless there's "pain and suffering" going on..
http://www.azcourts.gov/Self-Help

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I've not had this problem on here, but I would think that simply ignoring them would work best. Or just be weirder than them and make the conversation so awkward that they don't want to continue harassing you.
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From my experience the best way to deal with cyber-bullies and/or bullies (c*nts) in general is to ignore them. Silence is the deadliest killer in this case.
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Luckily it's cyber, so you don't have to beat their ass to keep the douches away. Simply block all forms of communications, report if necessary, and continue on with your life. Unless they are a hacker, or have login information, then it might be more difficult to assess. In that case, changing passwords/email, adding extra security measures, and other things might help. Bullying is unfortunately very common, and it'll always exist. Just as crimes, greed and plenty of other aspects or elements in life.
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Posted 8/4/17 , edited 8/4/17

YouGottobeFockingKidding wrote:

It's very simple, don't give a shit what haters think. The world is full of assholes and they all stink. As one person just said, Mostly important just have fun. If anything have fun screwing with them.


The way I see it the whole "don't give a shit what they think" mindset is what leads to bullying in the first place. Less than a decade ago I used to try and follow the "don't give a shit" line of thought. All said and done I realized I do give a shit. I might not agree with what some people say, but I do give a shit. Though some may not think I do because I aim to speak my mind instead of always staying quiet. Kind of a hard thing to do when you also don't want to stir up trouble. Attempt to lay an idea on the table and let it stand side by side with the others, that is about all we can do.


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

I can agree to an extent. However, Bullying is a consistent stream of harassment, and looking at how hate trains can form, can be devastating. Such cases are relatively rare, but people can be so vengeful or forceful that it makes the site in question a crappier place to be, and I honestly do not blame them for complaining when someone is so intent on making their existences here miserable enough to drive them away, and it may not be easy to ignore from what I have seen.

There is also the concept of "Words do not hurt if you let them", to nitpick, more to do with real life. Children are far more vulnerable than adults, and watching videos like the Youtube couple under the DaddyOhFive "pranking" their sons by accusing them of perpetuating a mistake, and then yelling vulgarities at them to the point of tears for 10 minutes straight, is an example of extreme verbal abuse.

My problem overall with this claim, ties into the fact that....

-Any rightful assertion of offense is deemed "Thin skinned" or "Triggered", as if being upset is somehow always unjustified.

-That physical abuse is the only form of abuse, rather than the most regulated one.

Some people should grow a pair, I agree. This isn't to put entire responsibility on a forumer, especially when the private messages are filled with vulgar content like pornographic spam, gore spam, attempts at doxing, rumor spreading, etc. Just as one shouldn't overreact, no one should have to put up with this in the first place.

Who'd want to join a site like that? Blocking does work at times, but it came to light recently how persistent people can be that they break actual laws, such as the practice of swatting and such. Even still, I would want the site to enforce the rules for a nicer community. It really depends for the OP. I don't know their situation, quite frankly.





My brother dealt with cyber bullying before it had a name. I think this was back in 2000 when I was still in high school or in the couple years after. Basically some people put up a website defaming him. Compared to today though it was small potatoes. Basically the internet was just one extra piece of pre-existing bullying.

I do have to wonder if we'd be better off throwing away the word "cyber" and just call it bullying. If I can think of anything to say to people harassed on the internet it would be to spend less time on the internet. Though I know it would be difficult. For many the internet is their safe haven.
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Just spread your wings and fly away.
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I'm no expert but if you're trying to use screenshots, etc as evidence, don't you have to let the other party know? Like IRL if you want to record someone and use it, you have to get their permission, no matter if its video or audio. Especially so if you're trying to use said recordings as evidence. I think the only exception if you're a civilian is the "Open door rule" where you can record if its in a public place and others can overhear (I think), or if you're talking to said person right outside of their door to their home while their door is open. Not sure if it applies to digital stuff like IMs, texts and the like, but there may be loopholes for said offender to get out of trouble by the lack of permission or at least telling them in said messages that you're saving them.

As for the guys that are asking underage girls for nudes, etc. They aren't cyberbullies, they are pedophiles who can then be upgraded to sexual predators by law enforcement and tried accordingly.

Also like others have said, taking flaming, trolling, etc posts to a lawyer won't count as cyber bullying. Lots of people take criticism, not agreeing with them, etc as harassment and bullying, when in fact its not. I think one way for sure to have a case is if said bully told you to kill yourself. Because there is no way for the bully to know if you're mentally unstable, suicidal, depressed, etc and may actually kill yourself. The law enforcement agencies may usually act in that case. And if said victim did actually kill themselves, that bully would then be tried and possibly sentenced to prison

Most of this probably doesn't apply to the OP, its just me putting my thoughts etc from the posts I've read in this thread..
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Posted 8/4/17

Otaku_Maou wrote:

I'm no expert but if you're trying to use screenshots, etc as evidence, don't you have to let the other party know? Like IRL if you want to record someone and use it, you have to get their permission, no matter if its video or audio.

No. Anything you post on the internet is liable for any and all to see.
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