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Good question.

I once had affection for a person that I shouldn't have and face the consequences for it. The rejection depressed me and left me feeling very vulnerable. I was taught a lesson. That time in my life was a bit of a mess. Thankfully, I have greater clarity now and will never again look for love in the wrong places.
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The rejection from my family when I fell in love with the wrong person I don't know if it hurt just as much or even more when I realized they were right.
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dreamnarcotic wrote:

Good question.

I once had affection for a person that I shouldn't have and face the consequences for it. The rejection depressed me and left me feeling very vulnerable. I was taught a lesson. That time in my life was a bit of a mess. Thankfully, I have greater clarity now and will never again look for love in the wrong places.


No pain no gain my friend, I was sort of asking for it


kaiala wrote:

The rejection from my family when I fell in love with the wrong person I don't know if it hurt just as much or even more when I realized they were right.


Right or wrong is more of a self-fulfilling prophecy. But since it happened, best move on, there's greener grasses
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Love is useless, unless it is love promised to our glorious God-Emperor, and to the Human Empire!


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Posted 8/2/17

fredreload wrote:


dreamnarcotic wrote:

Good question.

I once had affection for a person that I shouldn't have and face the consequences for it. The rejection depressed me and left me feeling very vulnerable. I was taught a lesson. That time in my life was a bit of a mess. Thankfully, I have greater clarity now and will never again look for love in the wrong places.


No pain no gain my friend, I was sort of asking for it


I asked for something out of desperation that I didn't understand and took a psychological hammering. I'll always look back and think about how much worse it could have turned out to be. That the temporary suffering was all for the better and that betterment was for those besides myself. It was never about me in the end. I had to receive the hurt so someone else could go on to feel joy. She eventually married and I am the one left alone. Serves me right, I think. That situation just put me in the place as the example of what not to be or do. It haunts me and that's as good as it gets.
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Can't be rejected if you never ask anyone out or talk to anyone :^)
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lol, the girl I (kind of) dated, and became obsessed with throughout highschool moved away and is now a dude.
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I have nothing against trans people btw. I'm just saying that he's a dude now, and we dont talk anymore because its awkward for me due to having feelings for him when he was a girl.
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The guy I liked said he liked me, but he later told me, in front of majority of the school, that he wasn't interested and to leave him alone. Not only was I embarrassed, but I was humiliated in front of people I didn't even know. I transferred out of that school ASAP. ;o;
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Simply existing opens you up to rejection. You ask have I ever been rejected, but I have yet to find myself so how can I accept another?
Rejection can be anything refusal to laugh at a joke, denial of self, or even refusing to give up your seat on a bus.

I once loved a girl. She was the only "REAL" girl in my school. She defended me without me asking her to. Sure it wasn't anything grand and she didn't go out of her way, but wether it be her convections, morals, what-have-you she did anyway. Mind you this probably sounds menial like unrequited puppy love maybe it was that's not the point.

The point is I was the periah at my school because I took that role upon myself and she still shed grace for me. I could've gone out with her to. My friend on the football team tryed to set her up. I'll never forget it. How hessitant she was-wether it was for him or me I still don't know. I'm getting off topic my words jumbled so i'll wrap this up.

I let her go and she's married now with children of her own.

Rejection isn't something to be feared it's something to be embraced. Your tears, pain, and heartache are proof that you are human and as such you can love. Never forget the more you hurt the greater your love.

Of caurse I say all this in truth while i've steeled my heart and made it darker than black.
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Most brutal?

I've been turned down a few times, sometimes more harshly than others, but I've never found direct rejection to be all that brutal.

In one case however, the person who I cared for - my closest friend for more than a year after moving state - essentially dropped off the face of the planet. She disappeared without warning, and without cause, which to me was far more brutal than any actual words could have been.

I enjoyed spending time with her, regardless of the circumstances. Having her simply disappear like she did seriously was damaging, because it called into question my ability to judge character. She was the first girl I had ever known in my life who I actually enjoyed being with as a friend to the extent that I legitimately didn't care whether or not things ever went down a romantic road, and I thought she agreed. When I was younger, such a situation would have inevitably been a nightmare for my hormone-run self, but by then I had experienced enough in the world that my mind didn't immediately drift towards trying to go out or date or love right from the beginning.

If someone who I think is such a great person and who is kind, funny, intelligent, and who shares much in common with me ends up being the sort of person who will abandon a friendship without even a word of explanation - then where does that leave me? If someone I knew for more than a year and spent a lot of time with can do something so obviously hurtful, and lacks the courage to even give an explanation to a friend, then how exactly am I supposed to trust anyone? I've never been the sort of person to easily make friends, and I treat my friendships very seriously, so this was especially difficult.

Of course, this isn't a rejection in the usual sense. We weren't "going out" by any stretch of the imagination, we simply hung out and had fun as friends. I was happy just to spend time with her, and would have been happy to have remained as friends. Perhaps she thought I wanted more out of our relationship, and she was incapable of even considering friendship with someone who held any kind of romantic feelings whatsoever, but in the end I'll never know.

Being honest with your friends and with those you care about is something that I find is highly important, so having someone just disappear like that was easily the worst I've ever felt from "rejection" before. It wasn't a clear rejection, and in fact rejection from a romance would have been perfectly acceptable to me. The fact that she disappeared off the face of the earth however, and abandoned our friendship without any explanation, was far more painful than any romantic rejection I've ever had to face.

Then again, I'm not a normal guy. To me, abandoning a friend without any explanation is one of the most cowardly things you can do, and it immediately calls into question your basic integrity as a decent human being. Which, again, makes me feel that I grossly misjudged her character, something that has made me lose all confidence in judging others. It's been only about a year since she disappeared, so perhaps I'm being melodramatic, but it really was brutal to me.

She also disappeared shortly after suggesting we go together to an amusement park in the local area together. Perhaps she wanted me to be more assertive, and was interested in a potential romance after all? Or perhaps she simply wanted to be friends, and asking her to dinner at a nice place was the final straw. That was the last time I saw her, after all - after said dinner.

Who knows. I can't read minds, and if someone is unwilling to communicate then I can only do so much.

Rejection in the past had been essentially me being turned down after being infatuated, and not after I actually knew a person well, for the most part. So this was by far the most painful "rejection" I've ever had to deal with, outside of situations where I've actually had a relationship end (few as those are). Having some person you simply fell in love with but don't quite know reject you is something you can get over, but having one of your closest friends abandon you without warning is far more damaging, at least in my opinion.
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I Have moved about every 2 years so i have had no time to construct a solid relationship but i did once ask a girl out and she said shed date me but then her friend said no straight up to me (she was spying around the corner) and the girl i asked just went along with it i never really got to talk or do anything with said girl again thats about how bad its gotten for me
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Reconnecting with my childhood best friend, but to only find that he never really cared to reconnect with me as I was with him. I was raised in a constantly moving environment. I would start to settle down then abruptly move to a different location due to circumstances beyond my control.

We had been friends for more than 9 years. I really thought we were extraordinarily close because we always remained in the same classes throughout elementary school. When I moved, the only means for communication at the time was email, and not all kids had access to that.
I came back to visit after 3 years to find out he moved. I had family there, but our families were never close. He had lived far from school or where I lived so it only made sense that we both spent majority of our time at school, the after school day care, or summer camp. He just fell off and no matter who I talked to back at our old school. They didn't have any contact information of him nor his family.

It wasn't until my junior year of high school we reconnected on facebook. However, he wasn't as enthusiastic as I was when we reconnected. He was more involved with his life in the states already and a lot has changed between both of us. He's one of those kind of people to be reluctant to message you if you're not within 50 mile radius of him. I've sent him a few messages just to say "hello" and "how are things going for you, this is what's going on with me" hoping to make that same connection we once had as grade schoolers.

Not sure if this is a rejection, but I took it as such.
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Posted 8/3/17 , edited 8/6/17
Been rejected once. It wasn't necessarily brutal but in retrospect we didn't really fit together. She was cool but way too wild so I could see it not working out.

After 10 years we grew apart. I found out she moved to L.A. and became a porn star. Then an old buddy linked me a video of this girl I once had a flame for getting plowed in the ass by some big black dude. Surreal.
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