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Share the exact same sense of humour, and interests. Also known eachother for like 11 years (68.75 % of my life) been dragged through hell (education) together and for the dumb shit he does
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Pretty much what others have said, common ground, similar sense of humour, mate ship/trust/care about you/will help you/etc.

In recent times though i have found myself with not many good mates to share some of my hobbies with. Some of my best friends have died, some we just drifted apart or they changed or i changed, etc


Hard to say how or why we develop friendships to the point of having best friends? it almost seems similar to chemistry in attraction to certain members of the opposite sex where its more than just lust, by that i mean some friends are more like associates where as the ones that we really bond with , something just clicks i guess?

It's also kind of strange how best friends can become strangers even if there was no falling out. Not sure about you guys but i have had several best friends over the years, like i will go through phases with different mates where they are my best friend but then they aren't anymore and now another one is and so on. Like they will be still be my friend but it's not the same as it was and now it is with someone else?
Anyone else gone through that?


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I guess i like my best friends because they're the ones who have stayed with me from the childhood days. Other "friends" have either backstabbed or just moved away, but my best friends have stayed friends with me all these years. Even though I'm very antisocial out of habit, they often find ways to make me feel included and not left out. So I'm grateful to them for that.
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He and I think the same and have the same sense of humor, so we both love to joke around together. Like all of our other friends didn't even realize we met freshman year three years ago. Several of them thought we were roommates and a couple thought we were best friends from high school.
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I read in the NYTimes a few years ago that when people turn thirty, people become too busy and their social circle shrinks drastically. Work and marriage takes away from the leisure time you had to make new friends or spend time with old friends. Some people (not me) might get lucky and still have someone to confide in. I don't but don't miss it very much, since I'm pretty introverted.

Advice for making friends? Find people who respect you--your time, your opinions, your general sense of self worth that is necessary to stay healthy. Find people who are unlike you and learn from both their strengths and shortcomings. Find people like you and appreciate what makes them unique. Think about what you can do to help others, as a first priority, but don't let yourself be used. You'll know it's happening when you stick around people and it causes pain, regularly.
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nxvb wrote:

I guess i like my best friends because they're the ones who have stayed with me from the childhood days. Other "friends" have either backstabbed or just moved away, but my best friends have stayed friends with me all these years. Even though I'm very antisocial out of habit, they often find ways to make me feel included and not left out. So I'm grateful to them for that.


I envy you.
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I think I've known them for so long that it doesn't really matter if we share common interests or not, we just connect.
We normally know what the others are thinking if we're in a group and are trying to figure out what we've thrown ourselves into.
Most of our hobbies are completely polarized (video games <-> hiking/mountain climbing, working <-> traveling the globe, hockey <-> soccer, etc).
We just happen to know one another so well that we can compromise at times.
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My personality is fake, I am aware of the hime type personality, but that takes way too much attachment = =. It is better to back stab someone from time to time. Ionno, hime personality really sticks


P.S Everyone back stab, just don't kill the person
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Well, we happen to meet each other. We knew each other from late teens. We like spending time together, We went on holidays together and even though there was an argument we managed not to kill each other. We still keep in contact even if we're both not in the same city or country for a while. We could go anything from days/ weeks/months until we next meet up and get right back into our friend routine. We keep in contact regularly even if it's just texts. She respects my space and I do the same for her. Besides she knows too much about me to have her as an enemy.
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Hard to say, I tend to appreciate people who put effort into getting to know me and respect me but when you've known someone longer that becomes harder to see and it's not necessarily a factor when going from friend to best friend. Common ground is important but not necessarily in terms of personality; looking at the people I've been friends with there's a lot of variation and not enough similarity to form a pattern but that could be because I've changed many times between getting to know those friends. What Magical-Soul said is about the only certainty I guess and maybe that's enough. I shouldn't need any one person to satisfy my all needs, that's why there's many different kinds of people out there and a combination of people is what forms a satisfying social circle.
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They are my best friends because we always have each others back. It's nice because we are a circle of best friends so it keeps the group very tight. Sometimes they feel more like brothers and sisters rather then best friends. We all don't share the same interests nowadays but we find things to do together. They are people I defiantly trust and care about.
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