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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17
1. Friends are temporary.
2. Happiness can be had but not found.
3. Life can be led blind to us but not others.
4. Humans are a bucket of unpredictability--but comprehension remains within grasp.
5. Porn is good for the soul.


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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/21/17
- Everything eventually works out so don't freak out too much

- Everyone is usually out for themselves so don't be surprised if you're kicked to the curb

- Try not to be afraid to ask for help sometimes

- When living with other people its important to carry your own weight

- Unfortunately, we survive better with other people/connections so you might wanna learn "people skills" (I'm pretty terrible at making conversation so I struggle with this)
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Posted 8/22/17 , edited 8/23/17
- The more you care, the more reason you're given not to.

- Light blinds just as darkness does.

- Cherish peacetime.

- Love who would speak their mind without restraint.

- Trust only in hatred unto you.

- Perspective is important. Try looking in before you look out.

- Honesty is dangerous only in company of the dishonest.

- How you view life correlates with how you view yourself.
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Posted 8/24/17 , edited 8/25/17
You literally do not know what someone is going through. Ive had a few examples of people who, when talking face to face, seemed perfectly happy and content, but upon getting to know them, have a very dysfunctional and rough life. Never assume things about people. Humans are very good at masking their true feelings and emotions. It's crazy.
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Posted 8/24/17 , edited 8/25/17
You can't give what you don't have

Health is important, take care of yourself, it makes life easier

There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.

Most of us are stupid, childish, mostly unaware of ourselves, we generally prefer imagination over reality, and really only have a pop understanding of things.

The smartest thing you can do is to get in touch with your own stupidity

Death is inevitable and people close to you will die

We all lie to ourselves on a constant basis and because of that all the relationships we have are based on lies to the extent we lie to ourselves. It's okay tho, just catch yourself when you can, maybe even cultivate the skill to catch yourself

Expectation is the mother of disappointment

We're all bodybuilders, our bodies are constantly being built around our lifestyle and conduct

The secret to happiness is not to argue with idiots

Learning how to identify idiots is a worth while endeavor

Good things should be enjoyed by people who can appreciate it

Limiting your acceptable range of human experience to a finite degree is pretty retarded

It's probably best to be who the fuck you is

Freedom is the gift you give yourself

Salvational thinking is...awful

Anything built upon a weak foundation will crumble on itself

Life is pretty dope
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Posted 8/24/17 , edited 8/25/17
When there's a fight, get a camera. Everybody wants to be the guy that shouts "WORLDSTAR!"
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Life is meaningless and death approaches, so have fun while you're here. So long as that fun doesn't cause any harm to anyone else.
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 8/31/17
Haters are gonna hate.
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 8/31/17
Cut negative people out of your life

Resilience > Education & Experience
Posted 8/31/17 , edited 8/31/17
Eat and exercise

Love yourself

The best way to kill fleas and cockroaches is to bomb the room.
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 8/31/17
Don't stand in the fire.
Really. Don't stand in the fire.
Don't stand in the green puddles either.
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 8/31/17
People aren't interested in the truth.


This came from when I started a new school and had homework to answer some basic questions; "Why did you choose this school?" "What is your favourite subject?" "What do you like about this school?"

Unfortunately I really struggled with the questions related to emotions and I just couldn't get them despite spending a couple of hours agonising over them. The homework should have only taken about 5 to 10 minutes. When I went to school the next day with only some of the answers completed the teacher wasn't interested in listening to me (I didn't even get to give a word of explanation) and was immediately given detention and lines about having to complete homework.

Looking back on my life with a greater knowledge of the world I suspect I am mildly autistic. I used to struggle with questions about emotions until I learned that lesson; people aren't interested in the truth. If in doubt make something up that they aren't likely to question.

"What do you like about this school?"
"I like the professional attitude of the teaching staff and their willingness to listen before rushing to judgement."
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 8/31/17
The most important things I've learned in life are:

1. Always keep good credit.

2. The people who are still with you when you are at the lowest point in your life are your real friends.

3. It is ok to enjoy being alone. No one should feel they need to be in a relationship or part of a group to feel that they have worth.

4. Your real friends will tell you what you need to hear and not just what you want to hear.

5. People who look like frogs are always bad drivers. Look, I know it sounds like I'm joking about this one, but I am on the road a lot and the really bad drivers are always people who resemble frogs. Trust me on this one.
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Talking to a girl is different than talking to a guy. I learned this late in life, well after the damage was done. I was on the board of directors for our Property Owners Association, and on the committee to interview new candidates for director positions. There were 5 women and 4 men on the committee. One of the candidates was a male CPA, the epitome of the type of person you want on a board that is more or less comprised of amateurs. When the interview was over and the guy left the room, one of the girls said "He didn't make eye contact even once. What a creep." The other four women then nodded their heads. Us four guys are shrugging our shoulders. I am going "Wait, What? That's a thing?" The girls outvoted us and the guy lost the job for not making eye contact. This was a rather disturbing revelation to me. I have Asperger's Syndrome. We never make eye contact. It feels like we are making a declaration of war if we do. I believe it is the same for Introverts and Shy people. So, I did some research and it is a thing. If you don't make eye contact, women will at best think you are defective, and at worst think you are creepy. Men could care less if you make eye contact.

So apparently there are four rules for talking to a women:

1. Make eye contact, in or around 70% of the time. If you are like me, this is going against every instinct in your body, but you need to do it so suck it up.
2. Keep gazing at the women's face if she is not looking at you. This causes a spooky phenomena called Emotional Contagion. You basically take on the women's emotions. If you want to make an emotional connection (and you do), this is a must have.
3. Pay attention to what she is saying. There will be a test. Again, if you are like me this is difficult. I have to chant "Eye Contact" in my head to constantly remind myself to do it. If you are an extrovert, this is as natural as breathing, but for me, this is rough. If you fail her test to see if you are paying attention, and you have the Emotional Contagion thing working, you can actually see on her face the word "Jerk" forming in her head.
4. Don't look at her boobs. If the woman showing cleavage, this is actually a test of your maturity. It is their way of weeding out men children. Again, if you fail this test and have the Emotional Contagion thing working, you can actually see on her face the word "Pervert" forming in her head. I believe there is some slack on this if the woman came over to you to chat you up. If you slip up once or twice, I think they take it as a positive sign.

When talking to a guy, all you have to do is pay attention. Much easier. If the guy has boobs however, probably not a good idea to look at them either.

Looking back, not knowing this really distorted my life. For reasons I could not understand at the time, I struggled in classes with female instructors. So, when I got into high school and could pick my courses, it was heavy math and science. Not that I liked those subjects, but if you got the answers right, you got them right and the subjective opinion of the teacher didn't matter. Any courses that required essays where the teachers opinion mattered, I made sure to pick male instructors. All in all a successful strategy for getting good grades, but I would have preferred a different curriculum. Because of the heavy math and science, I ended up in an engineering school that had a grand total of four women, all upper classmen, so basically my dating pool consisted of 0 women for all 4 years. In a liberal arts college, there could have been several hundred. So I graduate and start looking for a job. I don't know what is like now, but then a technical job required 3 interviews. The human resource director, the person you were going to work for, and the boss of the person you were going to work for. If the the human resource director was female, the interview ended there. If the person I was going to work for was female, the interview ended there And if the boss was female, the interview ended there. I missed out on a potful of really good jobs until I found a crappy company where all 3 people were men.

Having been educated on this, I now make a very deliberate effort to follow the 4 rules and everything has gone so much better. I have actually felt some warmth coming from women I converse with. Didn't know that was a thing either.
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treat other with respect
be responsable for yer actions
earned respect without hostility
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