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I used to believe that depression was mindset thing or because are people weak willed. I have it and I just couldn't enjoy the things I used to and there is nothing I can do about it excepting taking meds. It is kind of an eye opener. People might not realize they don't have as much control over themselves as they think they do.


It's very difficult for people to understand that mental illness exists beyond their conscious grasping unless they're experienced it themselves. There's still a lot of stigma attached to mental illness these days.

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The bible. Then I came to realize the only reason I ever did was because I was told to. Hearing about the flood, or why people are sent to hell was what made me realize the major contradictions in it. Especially with stupid things like voices in a mans head to sacrifice his son to prove his loyalty. Like what kinda crappy parent does that? But you get the point.
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That love was the most important thing. Not only it isn't, but it does not justify a LOT of people's actions. Maybe you can't control how you feel, but you can always control how you act (and if you can't bc of any mental illness/issue, it's not anyone else's fault. There is not excuse to harming others. Having a reason does not make things okay.)


I find this one fascinating. Do you mean romantic love? Like, attraction to someone?

I've always thought love WAS the most important thing, but I think of love as an action and a decision, not a feeling. Love is treating others the way you would want them to treat you, and all that, especially when you don't feel like it.
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That I could be whatever I wanted to be.

I wanted to be Thomas the Tank Engine, but that shits never gonna happen
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So far nothing I have learnt in High school has been of any use to me, not of it (except from 2 subjects: English and History). Having "Graduated" a little under 2 months ago, I can safely say that none of what I learnt in High school will be of any use to me in the near future other than getting me into further education. And the chances of me becoming a millionaire are slim to none. Furthermore, High school didn't teach me ANY of the following: taxes, health insurance, life insurance, managing my money, buying a house, paying for things, creating and maintaining a bank account, travelling, the law, my rights, what is illegal and legal etc. Basically, I don't know how to live, which contradicts (Completely) the shiny education that I have received. Whilst learning about Quadratic equations and the photosynthesis was interesting, will they pay my bills? Manage my money? Manage my life insurance? No


Hi stranger! I have unsolicited advice for you, and I apologize in advance, but I'm leaving it here anyway on the off chance that it will be useful to you!

For almost all of time, the people responsible for making sure you could perform ordinary "adult" things should have been your parents, not schools. All throughout history and even into modern day people send their kids to school to teach them stuff that they themselves cannot teach. If you have parents, ask them to teach you those things; if it's too late for that, go out and learn them yourself, and resolve to teach them to your own kids (if you plan on having any). I'm a teacher, and I can tell you that schools do not make good parents, and they probably never will (in our lifetimes at least).

On the other hand, your useless education is probably more useful than you think. Something I did when I was in high school was to ask as many old people and older adults, "what would you do differently if you were my age again?" I'd highly recommend you ask adults around you this question. For me, more than half of the adults I asked said, "I would have taken my education more seriously," or "I would have gotten more education." Most of them were stuck in their jobs and couldn't move up because they stopped halfway through getting a degree, or didn't have a degree, or got the wrong degree.

On a slightly related note: you know, we teach a lot of "useless" stuff in school. I'm a math teacher, so when I teach kids how to simplify radicals I know half of my kids are thinking, "why are we doing this?" That's when I say: Have you ever seen someone in gym clothes, running on the sidewalk? Where are they going? Anywhere? They're probably running in a big circle, not actually accomplishing anything. In fact, they could probably use a car or a train that could get them anywhere they wanted to go, much faster. Or what about people who lift weights? Why on earth would you *spend money* to go into a room so you could strain really hard to pick stuff up just to put it back down again? It's hard, you're sore afterward... Why? Because it keeps you in shape. It builds muscle and makes you stronger. All that training prepares you for when your car gets stuck and you need to push it. Math (and a lot of your education) is the same way. I hope my students never have to go out and simplify a bunch of radicals. But I do hope that they aren't intimidated when they need to pick out a cell phone plan or an insurance policy or learn to do their taxes.

Thanks for reading all of this, and I'm sorry again for giving you advice without you asking. Take it with a grain of salt, since it's the advice of a stranger, but I hope you got something useful out of it!
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Christianity and Santa
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I used to believe koalas ate palm tree leaves and thought eucalyptus trees were the same thing
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I used to believe karma would bite those that are terrible people in the ass someday, but then i found out that karma only applies to the reincarnation of the next life. In that case, it means nothing. They could be a good person in another life, so why should they deserve the karma inflicted from the previous one, when they aren't even the same individual? Although i am not a follower of Hinduism, i did believe in this philosophy for quite some time. Regardless of your current "karma", whether you are a good or bad person of society, punishment or reward might shower upon you entirely by the combination of chance and effort.
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PumaConcolor wrote:

That love was the most important thing. Not only it isn't, but it does not justify a LOT of people's actions. Maybe you can't control how you feel, but you can always control how you act (and if you can't bc of any mental illness/issue, it's not anyone else's fault. There is not excuse to harming others. Having a reason does not make things okay.)


I find this one fascinating. Do you mean romantic love? Like, attraction to someone?

I've always thought love WAS the most important thing, but I think of love as an action and a decision, not a feeling. Love is treating others the way you would want them to treat you, and all that, especially when you don't feel like it.


All kinds of love, though romantic love was the one I used to really put on a pedestal. Love as a feeling has been used to justify actions that honestly, I wouldn't wish on people I hate. I do think love is nice, and that it can be important, but it isn't 'humans driving force' as it seemed to be, and it isn't life's 'end game' too.

You can't choose family, so it's not fair to force yourself to love it. The whole 'two halves of a whole" that seemed to be of utmost importance to me became nothing more than the social construct it is when I realized humans are born whole. and while support from others is nice, you're not just a half or born to fill someone else's needs. Thinking that romantic love was meant for only one person and one alone (and that ending alone meant I failed in something basic) was a needless source of anxiety too. I used to believe all of those.

That said, the kind of love you described is what I consider love to actually be. Love as a choice is still beautiful to me, though it still isn't the most important thing. I'd even say it isn't necessary, but I'm still on the fence about that - romantic and familial love sure aren't necessary, but I don't think love as a whole is unnecessary. It just isn't as important as it's made to be.
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OldBrokenMan wrote:

I used to believe that depression was mindset thing or because are people weak willed. I have it and I just couldn't enjoy the things I used to and there is nothing I can do about it excepting taking meds. It is kind of an eye opener. People might not realize they don't have as much control over themselves as they think they do.


It's very difficult for people to understand that mental illness exists beyond their conscious grasping unless they're experienced it themselves. There's still a lot of stigma attached to mental illness these days.



Yes depression sucks. I have that on top of anxiety. Medication works for me quite well. Also there are a lot of people who don't know what suicidal ideation is. It's kind of like this: '' I am having a good day today but you know what would make my day better? Death. '' The human brain is very complicated and when something goes wrong with it, weird stuff happens.
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Yes depression sucks. I have that on top of anxiety. Medication works for me quite well. Also there are a lot of people who don't know what suicidal ideation is. It's kind of like this: '' I am having a good day today but you know what would make my day better? Death. '' The human brain is very complicated and when something goes wrong with it, weird stuff happens.


I have an anxiety disorder, primarily, and have had such since I was young--influenced largely by my autism. Medication helps these days, beforehand I was just showing up in urgent care thinking I was experiencing attacks--complaining I was set on fire, and/or needed more blood tests.

I had depression when I was younger for a number of years, so I'm familiar with the symptoms. Especially the "I don't feel like doing anything, *attempts to do something for 5 minutes*, I'm bored, *lays on floor*". I slept quite a bit then, and my suicide ideation came in the form of continuously looking up photos of people drowning. I never attempted or cut myself--I honestly hadn't a clue I was depressed at the time. I figured it out when I no longer had depression, because my thoughts no longer jumped to the most negative thing, getting up was easier, and my interests returned. I no longer spent a majority of my time in my room crying and being aggressive towards those that disturbed me. It was the instant realization that I had depression and for quite some time.

With anxiety my thoughts always spiral, collide, move too fast. Whenever I take my Xanax I can literally feel my thoughts being straightened out--my brain then moves onto other topics. It's really quite amazing the affect physiology can have upon one's thoughts.

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As a kid i thought doctor visits were free and food was free. (we had food stamps and medicare so...) I grew up and realized you gotta pay for this stuff man! i would say some other things but i don't want to offend anyone or start flame wars.
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That your dreams will come true.
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That your dreams will come true.


I feel like that only works for some people. Some people dreams come true while others just don't.
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That your dreams will come true.

I feel like that only works for some people. Some people dreams come true while others just don't.

Dreams only come true for those that work to make their dreams come true. You can't just sit on your hands all day, hoping someone will hand you everything you want.
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