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Posted 8/17/17
At least it was only a couple years
My parents are divorcing at 25 years
You'll get better with time, chocolate and lots of ice cream!
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Posted 8/19/17

Zenpie wrote:

Your life will move on either way and time will heal the wound.


time heals wounds but they always leave a scar
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Posted 8/19/17

eggrollsama wrote:

Why do they hurt so much?

I'm assuming its just a part of life, but being in a serious relationship for almost 2 years & still finding yourself in arguments all the time really just shows how much the relationship won't work.

My question is why do we need to be in a relationship so bad in the first place?


The first thing to remember when asking these questions is the 1 rule of evolution - A species that does not breed more than the death rate goes extinct.


They hurt because humans are a social species and a relationship failing represents a loss of time and resources as well as a potential breeding opportunity. The "pain" is your DNA's way of making sure it gets spread so in order to make sure you don't randomly ditch a partner you get emotional pain.

As to why - Breeding. What we call a "relationship" is a pair bonding for the purpose of procreation and protection of the offspring. It doesn't matter if you're not going to have kids or if you're infertile or if your partner is infertile. The old rules always apply. Always.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17
A bad relationship will do a lot worse than being single. You can walk away with lasting mental, emotional, physical, financial damage in some cases, or just waste your love on someone who doesn't really care.

I think people hear a lot that they need to be in one and don't focus on learning who they are, how to be happy, etc, and hope a partner will solve that. Missing out on warning signs in the process or moving too quickly.
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Posted 8/20/17
It takes a whole lot of time and effort to making relationships work, which is why it is worthwhile when it does. But in the event that the whole thing falls apart, the pain is generally proportional to the time and effort invested in it. That's just the way it is. If it doesn't work like that, I don't think the people involved are even human.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17
I think if 2 people are attracted to each other enough all else prevails
Posted 8/20/17

eggrollsama wrote:

I think if 2 people are attracted to each other enough all else prevails


You probably shouldn't have such a delusional opinion like this. The world isn't so black and white like a romance movie. True love doesn't exist, none of that sappy BS from movies exists. Two people can love each other and it can all go to shit. Or sometimes people end up finding someone they stay with for decades. Keep your opinion realistic lol. Or you're just going to get hurt when you realize your life isn't a fairytale
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You probably shouldn't have such a delusional opinion like this. The world isn't so black and white like a romance movie. True love doesn't exist, none of that sappy BS from movies exists. Two people can love each other and it can all go to shit. Or sometimes people end up finding someone they stay with for decades. Keep your opinion realistic lol. Or you're just going to get hurt when you realize your life isn't a fairytale


you're completely true

but
I emphasize on the word

Enough
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Posted 8/21/17
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Posted 9/29/17 , edited 9/29/17
It hurts because you liked them a lot and now that they wont be around anymore or at least not in the same way it's crushing. Losing people sucks
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Posted 9/29/17
Rip
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Posted 12/9/17

Rip


I'm ripping your rip man
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Posted 12/9/17
A breakup with a lover hurts for a minute
A breakup with a friend hurts for eternity.
Posted 12/10/17 , edited 12/10/17
I'd hate to imagine how horrible the feeling of losing a lover would be. I think it's also important not to lose yourself to feelings of resentment over the fact. Rise above and beyond.
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Posted 2/13/18 , edited 2/13/18
It's more fun to go buy some Play Doh in different colors. Make a sculture of your ex as you see him. You can add horns or a big nose, whatever. Then, put it on a piece of newspaper so you won't mess up your coffee table. Raise your fist in the air & smash the sucker to smithereens, screaming, "Oh No Mr. (insert ex's name here)!!!"
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