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Post Reply Is unwanted flirting online an attack?
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Posted 9/1/17 , edited 9/1/17
no i don't think so
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Posted 10/31/17 , edited 11/1/17
It's not an attack until the clear line of consent is breached
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Posted 11/11/17 , edited 11/12/17
No, but if you refuse the person and they continue I guess you can consider it as harassment
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Posted 11/14/17 , edited 11/14/17
No, just block the person or learn to ignore people it tends to be very effective way to deal with situation. If your unwilling to act to prevent the unwanted advances in direct manner tends to cause more issues later on.
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Posted 11/14/17 , edited 11/14/17
I would say it is an aggressive action, so perhaps, depending on your definition of "attack". I of course believe that outright defamation and libel are attacks on reputation, which is something that ought to be seriously condemned.

I think for flirtation, one needs to communicate that it is unwanted in the first place, by being direct and honest. Some individuals do not mean it as an act of aggression of sorts, but due to the invocation of Poe's Law (It is difficult to tell intent online without a honest declaration of sorts), subtle cues that would work in real life may not translate to the keyboard.

Then, one can and should block, but of course, the responsibility to care for one self doesn't mean the perpetrator is free of responsibility. Reporting may be used, especially in serious cases involving trolls, raiding, etc.
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Posted 11/14/17 , edited 11/14/17
The posts in this forum pretty much explain the context where flirting is an attack and the context where it is not. I now want to ask why would anyone want to flirt in the internet? The internet is full of traps and unattractive women who seduce men with fake profile of real life self. Even when they is a real hot young female online, those girls could use men as profile image as a deterrance against stalkers. The same could be said of flirting by women.
Posted 11/14/17 , edited 11/14/17
Short answer: is it an attack? no.

Long answer: I don't flirt online, but I have been flirted on, so I say it depends on context, and there is always a limit to things, there are lines you shouldn't cross, but a casual flirtation seems fairly benign especially among friends. But it depends on who and delivery if its creepy or not.

It's naive for folks to think of such things as black and white because obviously they're lacking in insight or experience. But an actual attack would be not the way to describe it.
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Posted 11/14/17 , edited 11/14/17
No.
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Posted 11/14/17 , edited 11/14/17
No. Ignore. Move on.
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