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A question that has popped up in my mind for 8 years
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17

Velvet_Crowe wrote:


Woah just take it easy cherry boi



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Potentsaliva wrote:


Velvet_Crowe wrote:


Woah just take it easy cherry boi





Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17

Go tell someone else that since it'll fall upon deaf ears. Obviously it matters, to me! It's not just that I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin in all aspects of romance.


Do you have some type of depression?
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Mate,

First of all, do you even try??

If you want a gf or just lose virginity, you have to go out! interact with people so you get the chance to know new girls...

You are probably scared to talk to girls... the only way to get over it is to man up and try, after all girls don't bite unless you want them to

Don't be insecure!

Hope it was helpful and good luck
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This definitely has popped up in my head over the years. You know when you can sleep at night and you stare at the ceiling just thinking about things randomly, well this is a question that probably has the most "air time" during those restless nights. Last night I was listening to pop/emo rock of the 00's wondering where it all went wrong...ahhhhhhhhhhh! Where did the earliest part of my youth go? Why couldn't I have had a cute childhood friend that was a girl??? Wait I actually did. Fuck why did she have to move away???

I was wondering if you kind people of CR could help me dive deep into the psyche of my mind to figure out this question that's been haunting me for almost half my life. Being a 21 y/o virgin has begun to put a weight on my shoulders, within 9 years I'll be a "wizard" bearing the weight similar to Atlas with nothing to gain, because gaining magical powers from being a 30 y/o virgin isn't fucking true. Carrying this weight makes it hard to step forward in life, I'm actually pretty sure I didn't grow any taller in high school cause I didn't get a girlfriend and reach to a higher level. One of my friends got laid in 9th grade during that year he shot up 6 inches, coincidence? I think not. Fuck I'm short as shit :'(

Now before any of y'all post some shit about how it doesn't matter that your a virgin, I'm just gonna stop you right here, don't even post that. Go tell someone else that since it'll fall upon deaf ears. Obviously it matters, to me! It's not just that I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin in all aspects of romance.


relatable. very relatable. scaringly relatable. are you my cousin? my twin? my run away right hand?
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eggrollsama wrote:


Go tell someone else that since it'll fall upon deaf ears. Obviously it matters, to me! It's not just that I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin in all aspects of romance.


Do you have some type of depression?


You know I ask myself this everyday, but then I always end up realizing that I'm not cool enough to have depression.



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Mate,

First of all, do you even try??

If you want a gf or just lose virginity, you have to go out! interact with people so you get the chance to know new girls...

You are probably scared to talk to girls... the only way to get over it is to man up and try, after all girls don't bite unless you want them to

Don't be insecure!

Hope it was helpful and good luck


I don't, is that bad? I'm not just scared to talk to girls I'm scared to talk to people in general...




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relatable. very relatable. scaringly relatable. are you my cousin? my twin? my run away right hand?


Ayyyyyyyy it's my boi Elliot Rogers what's good fam? I thought you killed yourself.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/21/17
Woman can smell desperation dude, and it's not an attractive scent. Quit caring so much that you're a virgin and just go talk to some girls. You'll probably end up losing your v-card by accident.

And remember you can't **** someone over the internet so stop harassing girls online and go harass some real live girls instead. At least then you'll have a chance at some actual physical contact.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/21/17

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Woman can smell desperation dude, and it's not an attractive scent. Quit caring so much that you're a virgin and just go talk to some girls. You'll probably end up losing your v-card by accident.

And remember you can't **** someone over the internet so stop harassing girls online and go harass some real live girls instead. At least then you'll have a chance at some actual physical contact.


What does desperation smell like? Also where did that harassment bit come from? I don't ever remember doing that like ever...
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/21/17

DrunkKanti wrote:

Woman can smell desperation dude, and it's not an attractive scent. Quit caring so much that you're a virgin and just go talk to some girls. You'll probably end up losing your v-card by accident.

And remember you can't **** someone over the internet so stop harassing girls online and go harass some real live girls instead. At least then you'll have a chance at some actual physical contact.


I think i should point out that harassment is likely considered a crime depending on where you are.

To topic,
To the OP, losing your virginity isn't as hyped up as it seems. Congrats you had sex. Okay next topic.

If you plan to lose the V card, at least find someone you love (and they love you back) get tested, get married, then lose that v card.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/21/17

nxvb wrote:
I think i should point out that harassment is likely considered a crime depending on where you are.


I don't mean harass in the traditional sense. It was more of a joke, as any such unwanted flirting can be considered harassment these days.


Potentsaliva wrote:
What does desperation smell like?

I don't know. I'm not a girl. All I know is it's not the kind of smell you can cover up with deodorant or cologne.


nxvb wrote:
If you plan to lose the V card, at least find someone you love (and they love you back) get tested, get married, then lose that v card.


That's terrible advice. How do you know if you're physically compatible with someone if you don't sleep with them before marriage? Sexual compatibility is an important factor when it comes to relationships, and if you wait until you're married to have sex with your partner you might discover you don't enjoy each other as much as you should. Then you're either stuck in a sexless marriage for the rest of your life or you need to get a divorce.

Also, why would he have to get tested while he's still a virgin? You can't catch an STD without having sex.
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I'm turn 24 this month and am in the same situation; i'm still a virgin and it is a huge weight that makes it hard for me to function daily without thinking about it and getting depressed. Not everybody is lucky and has natural interactions where they end up meeting girls. I'm not even short like you say you are (i'm 6 or 6' 1") and i've lifted weights and been physically fit since high school and have been told by girls that i'm attractive many times so I wouldn't worry about looks because looks don't get you sex. I think the right choice is to kill myself but i'm afraid it will hurt too bad and I also don't want to feel the terror of regretting it last second. I don't think there is a real solution I just think there are people that girls will have sex with and i'm just not one of them.
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The only advice I have is the obvious, but I will say it anyway: you won't get a girlfriend if you don't talk to real girls in the first place. Some people meet online and actually start dating in real life, but that doesn't sound like a reliable game plan to me. You mentioned that you are hesitant to socialize with people in general, but you're going to have to decide which you dislike more: talking to people or your status as a virgin.

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MP7373 wrote:

I'm turn 24 this month and am in the same situation; i'm still a virgin and it is a huge weight that makes it hard for me to function daily without thinking about it and getting depressed. Not everybody is lucky and has natural interactions where they end up meeting girls. I'm not even short like you say you are (i'm 6 or 6' 1") and i've lifted weights and been physically fit since high school and have been told by girls that i'm attractive many times so I wouldn't worry about looks because looks don't get you sex. I think the right choice is to kill myself


It's not. If your virginity is that big of a deal for you just pay a hooker and get it out of the way. Don't kill yourself over it.


but i'm afraid it will hurt too bad and I also don't want to feel the terror of regretting it last second. I don't think there is a real solution I just think there are people that girls will have sex with and i'm just not one of them.


Ridiculous. Women will have sex with anyone. You just got to learn how to talk to them and build a connection with them. Unfortunately there is no right or wrong answer here. There's no secret password that will open the heart of any girl and make her yours. Every girl is different and every girl wants and needs different things. You have to actually talk to them and get to know them to find out what those things are. Remember girls want to have sex just as bad as men do, but they're not just going to say yes to any guy that hits on them.

Maybe you're standards are just a bit too high. Not every girl is a 10, and if you keep on waiting for the perfect girl to fall into your lap you're going to be lonely for a very long time. Besides once you've made a connection with someone, looks begin to matter less and less.
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Best Advice I can give you regarding this..
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MP7373 wrote:

I'm turn 24 this month and am in the same situation; i'm still a virgin and it is a huge weight that makes it hard for me to function daily without thinking about it and getting depressed. Not everybody is lucky and has natural interactions where they end up meeting girls. I'm not even short like you say you are (i'm 6 or 6' 1") and i've lifted weights and been physically fit since high school and have been told by girls that i'm attractive many times so I wouldn't worry about looks because looks don't get you sex. I think the right choice is to kill myself but i'm afraid it will hurt too bad and I also don't want to feel the terror of regretting it last second. I don't think there is a real solution I just think there are people that girls will have sex with and i'm just not one of them.


Finally someone being honest and speaking sense in this thread!
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