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Post Reply Why is it 'These hoes ain't loyal' ?
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Been a long time since I posted. Been feeling down lately. Anyone here ever gave themselves fully to another person? Was completely open, loyal and loving only to get ditched in the end? Some may remember I posted last year, asking for relationship advice with a girl I was with.

Here: http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-965855/so-who-wants-to-help-dante-out-with-relationship-trouble?pg=0

That was just 4 months into the relationship. Holy shit the red flags were everywhere and what I did do? I didn't listen to anyone. Not my friends, not the people on here, and I kept trying for her. We actually did get back together. and lasted a year and with some ups and downs like normal relationships, everything was pretty much perfect on both sides. We had such a good connection, both physically and emotionally. 7th June 2017 came round, our 1 year together. I bought her a card, in it with the words "Had a hard time finding an anniversary card that didn't mention 'wife', but one day I'll get you that card". God I'm so stupid. On that day, with some gifts and that card, she broke up with me. A lot of family & drama had been going on and getting between us, I knew it was a strain on the relationship but I thought we would of stuck it out together, but nope, not her. Two weeks later she's with someone else...that only lasted a week. During the next 2 months we're arguing on/off and said a lot of horrible things to each other.

At one point though we were nice again, until her friend tried getting with me sending me nudes an shit lol, obviously I wasn't interested, my ex found out but believed her bullshit over me. Today though my ex knows the truth about that other girl, and she ain't friends with her no more. I've tried so hard even now, to talk with my ex but she's just so hateful towards me, treats me like I'm someone else. Tells me how all I did was be horrible to her, all the things I did for her or gifts she didn't want any of it, she never liked me, etc. Tells everyone what a bad person I was to her even though I treated her fucking perfect. Now she just sits around all day chatting to a new guy every week, sometimes meeting them just acting so desperate. Posting that stupid shit on facebook girls do about how "Oh I want someone to love me for who I am" - "Oh I want someone to buy me chocolates and ice cream for no reason" and all this other stuff, telling other guys she's spoke to for like 5 hours "no ones ever treated me as good as you" even though that bitch HAD that. I done all that cute shit, and for what?

And before anyone asks, don't worry, I've cut her out my life completely and have done for the past week. Don't think I can ever give myself like that to someone ever again. So be careful out there people, these hoes ain't loyal.
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Posted 8/25/17 , edited 8/25/17
What was the purpose of this thread? You had a shitty relationship and now all girls are hoes?
You say she is desperate but were you not desperate for staying with her even though there were issues and even getting back with her? Why did you not just go with any other hot girl? Cause you could not get any.
You're also 27 and write like a teen, grow up and move on. Moving on means not writing an essay on an anime forum about the girl you cut out of your life.
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Because life sucks and it's not meant to be happy. I'm 27 as well and like you I used to put people I cared about on a pedestal. Granted I never had an actual girlfriend before but I settled myself into making my friends happy instead. Everyone who ever showed the remotest interest in me wound up lying or stabbing me in the back the moment I returned their feelings. You just got to dust yourself off and try again. Ignore the people that talk shit about you. You know the truth, and one day they will know it as well. Also I wouldn't treat my girlfriend with everything in the world. That's another hard lesson I had to learn. Some people don't like being smothered like that. Take things nice and easy with little cute surprises now and again. You don't need to go full force every time.

Yet this is just my opinion. You need not heed it or even read it. I give my advice when I can to those around me. That is my purpose.
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Posted 8/25/17 , edited 8/25/17

Nyxali wrote:

What was the purpose of this thread? You had a shitty relationship and now all girls are hoes?


To talk with others with a similar experience? And I didn't say that. I'm saying some girls claim they want a guy like this and that, then they have it and more, and fuck it all up.


Nyxali wrote:
You say she is desperate but were you not desperate for staying with her even though there were issues and even getting back with her? Why did you not just go with any other hot girl? Cause you could not get any.


So I was desperate in actually being the man some girls claim they want in not just ditching her? And I could of gotten other girls, I could of banged her 'best friend' who was trying to get with me but I didn't so, whatever.


Nyxali wrote:

You're also 27 and write like a teen, grow up and move on. Moving on means not writing an essay on an anime forum about the girl you cut out of your life.


You need to relax, I'll do whatever I want.
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Posted 8/25/17 , edited 8/25/17
Just chill. There's other women out there. In one year:

I ended up dating two girls at the same time by serious error on my part. Never intended to. One was interested in me, I was interested in the other girl. Both relationships ended. I take full blame and responsibility.

:Less than a month later, I ended up in an amazing threesome with two out-of-town girls. It was a vacation fling for all of us, with no real future.

By the end of the year, I was dating the woman I've been married to for more than 2 decades, and to whom I've been totally monogamous.

Stop worrying about the ex and move on.
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Posted 8/25/17 , edited 8/25/17
Obviously you want to talk to someone about this, but as Nyxali pointed out already, maybe this isn't the place for it. I'd say when you have an urge to write an essay length anything where you reflect on your life that the first place you do it is in a word document or on a piece of paper. That way you can reread and reflect on your thoughts once you organize them on paper or a computer screen then you can decide what that piece of writing is for. Maybe it was written just for you to process and organize your thoughts, maybe it doesn't need to be on crunchyroll forums. Maybe it CAN be here, but you'd do much better bringing it to a forum specifically aimed at discussing relationships or breakups.

Here are two observations I have of what you wrote. You start off by asking the audience if they have ever given themselves fully to someone else and ask similarly about being open and loyal and stuff, but it is clear we are supposed to feel sorry for you that you didnt get your happily ever after.

That just isn't how relationships are. You can't force a happy forever till we die situation out of another human being by making sure to check off all the superficial shows of affection. You wanted things to go your way because you fulfilled your own criteria of being a perfect partner and she still left you. So you are the victim and you want to lay the blame of the relationship ending or just you being unhappy with this person you were with before. By the end of the post you take a cautionary tone, as though this whole thing was put here to warn us, the crunchyroll community, of the danger of disloyal hoes. How benevolent. How kind of the wounded, loyal lover to share his woes with us and save us possible hardships like he has faced.

Talking down to people through a thin veil is not a recipes for their understanding or their sympathy. Sympathy, understanding, nor praise would even help you with this situation anyway. Don't pretend to be helping us when what you really want is for someone to help you understand why you are hurting despite your best efforts.
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Posted 8/25/17
why would any one be loyal when the goal in life at the moment is to be the most narcissistic as posable and if you want loyalty get a dog.
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Posted 8/25/17

Nyxali wrote:

What was the purpose of this thread? You had a shitty relationship and now all girls are hoes?


Pretty much--The New Millennial Kids can't grab the bottle, so they grab the keyboard.
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Can be me and never tried to get a girlfriend
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He basically made the thread because he wants people to agree with him what a ho his ex is so he can feel better about himself.
He complains she has been painting all the memories of him negative and yet is doing the exactly same thing since I am pretty sure he made sure to make her look like a joke in his post.

Instead of hating her try hating yourself. It was your fault for being with her and your fault for not leaving earlier. It is also your fault for not doing it with her friend, you think acting like a whiteknight gets you anything or what? How do you know if you hadn't gone done it with her friend you wouldn't have gotten to know her and realized she's cool? Probably because you thought by being a good little pet she'll come back to you still.

It is true that a lot of girls are shit simply due to how society puts them in a place of choice where they can be as shit as they want and guys will still make them feel special for having a hole between their legs but it's absurd to say that they are all hoes because you're too incompetent to realize that your relationship was shit and forced.
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Posted 8/25/17
You're just getting too old to deal with someone who's mentally 14. I wish you luck in finding someone who's more suited for you in the future.

At the end of the day she probably did you a favor though by forcing your hand into wanting to be completely done with her for good. Imagine having to go through all this crap in the future, but with divorce and custody battles on top of it.
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Posted 8/25/17
Calling girls hoes won't get you far and why do you feel the need to post your relationship troubles in a anime forum?
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Posted 8/25/17
I get that you're hurt and need to vent. You're also a jealous ass. You've sunk very low by dragging her name through the mud, much less, by projecting whatever she did onto others.
Posted 8/25/17 , edited 8/25/17
Girls are weird, I prefer a game of Crusader kings II.

Posted 8/25/17
I don't know. We're all different. Usually reasons though. Cant say, dont know.
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