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Post Reply The reason why I don't have any friends is because...
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Posted 10/14/17 , edited 10/14/17

Aerlu wrote:


sehanislimerent wrote:

i find friendships with too many people to be exhausting
i like to keep my friendships group small and only filled with people who wish to maintain a strong and close relationship .....and i have trust issues...on a major level...what do you guys think?



well, since you asked...

i think that is admirable. quality over quantity, and you still choose to be with friends to begin with rather than being alone, which i believe helps in some way. trust issues are normal, and i hope they come to serve you well, as not everyone i met was nice for free, but always at a price.

don't pay for friendship with humiliation. hazing is what bullies do, not friends. when they've been amiable for two years and then suddenly ask you to humiliate yourself, be ready to cut ties immediately, if possible. otherwise, you sow and reap regret.



considering you want to be able to cut ties immediately...those friendships that you will easily detach from were probably never worth it from the beggining.....and thank you for valuing my opinion
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How am I supposed to know why you don't got any friends?
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I'm not very sociable, pretty simple as that. I just don't have any interest in doing all of the typical things that friends do, all while they tend to be quite busy with their work lives. Not to mention, I'm someone who is not exactly willing to share all of my interests and other stuff. And while I do realize I need friends, I'm not exactly someone who is good at making and keeping them.
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Posted 10/16/17 , edited 10/16/17
I dont think that friends are a think that you need. I mean to be honest I would rather that no one would bother me (especially parents who call you every day to see if you are eating) Life sucks, anime rules.
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Posted 10/21/17 , edited 10/21/17
I'm not really sociable... I have a really hard time opening up to others. If we dont 'click' right away then what's the point?
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Posted 10/21/17 , edited 10/21/17
because no one at my school likes anime
Posted 10/21/17 , edited 10/21/17
Not very sociable I suppose.
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Posted 10/21/17 , edited 10/22/17
I'm more socially awkward and can't seem to make friends despite how nice I try to be. People just don't like me past being an acquaintance. The friends that I had didn't have anything in common with me and we drifted apart ( they don't like anime or gaming) and didn't want reconnect when I tried to. Some actually stabbed me in the back and we fought. Since high school, I haven't made a single friend, even in college.

I do wish I had at least one friend I can talk to but at this point I'm sick of trying and making a fool out of myself. I can survive just fine without..

If someone wants to be my friend, I wouldn't turn them away. I'm just going to leave it up to them. If you like me, great. If not, its no skin off my back.

Also being a 30 year old nerd in the country part of Maryland is very rare. Any one else have trouble in that respect because of location and the locals?
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Posted 10/21/17 , edited 10/22/17
All the above
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Posted 7/2/18 , edited 7/2/18
I agree with both option three and option four, with my wariness of trusting people being solely the reason. I no longer feel the immense pain of not having a friend, as I chose to adopt the mindset of being friend to myself. To meet a individual who I can finally trust and call a friend is a dream that will be an eluding dream to me.
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Posted 7/2/18 , edited 7/2/18
I've come to find one reason a number of people don't have many friends is because they're too focused on finding a single person to love which is self-sabotaging in its own right. Depression, Anxiety and Codependency are all that mindset breeds.

Infact a particular friend of mine is dealing with this right now and it's saddening because there's nothing I can do to reach her. An introvert with anxiety, depression and lovesick tunnel vision. She doesn't wanna hang out and seems to have trouble with online relationships which aren't easy for a lot of individuals in the first place. It's not as if you can simply enjoy one anothers proximital company like in real life, no, it takes effort from both parties and lots of interaction.


Wish we could just forget about it all for a second and go pick some berries. It'd be fun and we could eat em too.

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Posted 7/2/18 , edited 7/2/18
I can't start conversations with people, which combined with my completely unapproachable aura I put out, makes for a very lonely person.
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Posted 7/2/18 , edited 7/2/18
Other because I am not a loner dammit!!
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Posted 7/3/18 , edited 7/3/18
Because no one likes me.
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Posted 7/3/18 , edited 7/4/18
Because I'm terrible about keeping up with others. It's not that I don't want to talk, it's just a variety of reasons... I don't want to be annoying, I find myself doing other stuff, etc.,etc. I'll communicate just fine when conversations are initiated... At least initially.

Sadly nowadays I typically have to have fallen for someone for me to break past these barriers. There are very few exceptions, usually people who are insistent about keeping conversations up, but they are rare. Most friends must be as socially awkward as me and thus they don't start conversations either, either that or I'm just a terrible friend they don't care to start up conversations with anyway. That's a possibility.
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