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when I was young I was shy, in college it was easy because I had to do it alot. now that I am a bi polar sociopathic narcissist I dont give a fuck.
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I had a terrible fear of it, but through Senior year and beyond I've become a lot better. Now I love speaking, as long as I'm prepared, for speeches and the like. Just everyday conversations I could work with my shyness with strangers, but I'm getting there. It's not really a scary story, but I tell people, and my gf, I love scaring her, its too easy, fake events. For forests, I have Horatio, a former Cult member who reportedly murdered a camping couple and was lost in the woods. I never say he exists, I just let that idea gently hang in the air. I draw said person into the story, always maintaining an air of doubt, but never saying it didn't happen. All driving for letting the person's own fears and paranoia slowly scare them.

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Yes and no. The key for me is preparation. Talking about something I know is the easiest thing in the world because I don't have to worry about stopping or stuttering; I just know it. Learning not to ramble or sidetrack can be an issue, but it's sort of it's own issue that I never really had a problem with.

Now make me give a presentation I'm not prepared for and I will bomb that so hard.
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I am not good at all. My college even had a mandatory class on it. I barely got by. If I don't know people then I wont speak. I also ramble and stumble over my words. Then everyone gives me the weird looks. Its terrifying to me Even with preparation. I want to be the person who can speak in front of strangers and be comfortable with it, its just I'm terrible at it.
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I'm pretty comfortable with it because I've been performing since I was young. I played violin and was on the praise band at church. I also did debate in my senior year of high school; although, that was more of just reading off pre-prepared cards.

I still get nervous when I speak in front of a crowd, but I think what keeps me going is the thought that I would look a hell of a lot better if I just confidently bluff my way through instead of freezing up. Of course, that's easier said than done.

I guess my advice would be this: if all goes wrong, it's better to ramble than to choke up.
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mxdan wrote:

How many CR users are good at public speaking? How many of you dread it? The topic is interesting to me because I've had a borderline phobia of it my whole life. Recently, I decided that it was something I wanted to get better at so I bought a bunch of books on the subject and started going to counseling. Today, I gave the best speech of my life at school and I feel pretty proud. I've still got a long way to go but this is a skill set that a large portion of the population struggles with.

Any of you have good stories in this subject? Even horror stories? And if you are good how did you improve to be able to do it well? Was it natural?


I used to be absolutely horrified of it until I figured out the secret to beating it. Write your speech days in advance and practice saying it until you memorize it completely. have it down to the point in which it is just second nature, and the anxiety just slips away. If you can too a beer helps a lot...
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I still get very nervous before I speak in a formal setting, even though I have been speaking in front of large groups in varying capacities for years now.

The minute I get up there and start speaking however, my nerves calm, and things normally go exceptionally well.
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I was never too afraid of public speaking or presentations or any of that; just didn't want to forget any information I needed to say. I still took a public speaking course in college a year ago and that helped get rid of any stage fright I may have had, as well as introduce me to tips about body language, how to write an effective speech, etc.

I hate approaching people one-on-one for conversation, but I can speak to and light up the room with a bunch of 'em. Go figure.
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PrinceJudar wrote:

Autism and social anxiety--public speaking makes me physically ill for days after. Doesn't help I'm a slurring, spastic, stuttering, hand flapping, screeching mess.


Yeah pretty much this. I spend so much time online that my social skills, since I was 10 years old, have deteriorated over time ever since. Great at talking to people online, horrible in person.

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Not anymore. Some of my early classes I took in college (speech, critical thinking, etc) required me to speak in front of the whole class, so I was kind of forced to get over it.
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I don't particularly like doing it, but I don't think it's too bad as long as you're prepared and know what you're saying. If I don't know what I'm talking about, then oh my goodness, is that horrible (I don't ever want to go through that). I've only had to do one presentation to my class in University so far, but I think I'll probably have to do some more, so even if I was scared, I'd have to get over it somehow.

I remember this one class I had back in high school where we each had to do a presentation to another class (it was people from the same year group, and we knew all of them), and it was all the more loud, talkative people that were really afraid of doing it (there was even this one girl that started crying and had to be taken out of the classroom), but idk, I would it hilarious and ironic at the time, but looking bad on it, I kinda felt sorry for them. It was especially funny because all the more quiet people (including me) didn't even seem that bothered about it.
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I hate doing presentations. Last year I had a class called "Communication Skills" which made us present all the time. I'm good at presenting with a laptop projecting what I'm talking about but when it's just me up there I tend to forget and rush things. I'm surprised I passed the class...
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