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girl in work? you are not talking about dating sim game right ?
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D4nc3Style wrote:

Tell them to fuck off.


Probably the dumbest thing you could do. Unless you're looking to get fired.
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kindly bring their negative attitude and the likes to their attention, sometimes people don't realize they are doing "bad" without bringing it to their attention. they see how others, mimic is something scary. otherwise, just deal with it and hope it goes away eventually that's the only other option. it could be better to upset and cause a silent treatment than any form of interaction if something backfires when you bring to their attention their disrespectful methods. as for "center of attention" there's really no breaking of that, a person has to really break that, along with any other disrespectful method they have. all we can do is bring it to their attention. best of luck and I hope it really doesn't backfire for you. sometimes a backfire could be they fake snitch and cause discomfort for you.
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mittemeyer wrote:

Well, I used to be like that, which is why I tend to be generous with people who are just enthusiastic. They probably don't know how people see them, which is reason to be sympathetic. There's a Henry James quote that I am fairly certain can be attributed to him and to no one else: "Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind."


I am nice to her, even when the other staff members have a go at her behind her back. It's hard to tell someone who is genuinely nice that they annoy you without offending them.
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I am nice to her, even when the other staff members have a go at her behind her back. It's hard to tell someone who is genuinely nice that they annoy you without offending them.


That is the case, isn't it. If you tell her the bad news, she will blame you, of all people. Odds are she won't even take your advice to heart. Now if you really want to help her, keep being nice to her, and when she finally figures out that some people don't get along with her, and she can't figure out why, gently let her know what you've observed: that other people gossip about her because of her habit of droning on.

Most likely though, she won't give you the chance, meaning that the question to ask yourself is whether you will continue to try to be the decent person who will tolerate her, or not. Personally, I think the good habits you make in one area of your life--remaining patient with someone who means well--will carry over and benefit you elsewhere.
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I'd most probably just ignore the person. I usually bottle up all my feelings and constantly being annoyed would bring out the beast in me.
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Talk even louder than her?
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zangeif123 wrote:


D4nc3Style wrote:

Tell them to fuck off.


Probably the dumbest thing you could do. Unless you're looking to get fired.


Not with my job.

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You do realize that you don't have to be nice to her, just polite. Since you said she's a nice person but apparently her manners and social awareness are lacking.

When it's one-on one, listen to her but keep your expression completely neutral. Do not react unless she asks you a question; these you reply to with direct, succinct answers. Never giver her any further details or indicate that you want her to continue speaking. This should indicate that you are not interested in the conversation and ought to result in her leaving you alone.

In a group setting, if you find she's hijacked the conversation and you feel annoyed leave. Confrontation here would be non-productive. If she is creating an unpleasant atmosphere and removing her is not an option, remove yourself. Once you have calmed down then, if you choose, take her aside and calmly tell her how what she did made you feel (do not mention anyone else, it is not your place to speak for everyone). If she is as nice as you say she is, this should at minimum make her think about how she behaves.
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Kill them with kindness
Also tune them out
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Talk to them i have a habit of being annoying myself sometimes we don't realise we annoy others.

Talking solves most problems people seem to have forgotten how to do that and just run away these days like cowards ^^
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Tune them out mostly
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Stop shopping at Costco

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Cato_Sicarius wrote:

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^^^ This
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