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Research has found that feeling grateful is actually good for you. Here's how to foster good vibes
https://www.consumerreports.org/health/the-benefits-of-practicing-gratitude/
http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/01973533.2017.1323638?journalCode=hbas20&

I'm thankful for a working water heater this winter! I have to admit though I hate it when i have to wait in line for more than 10 minutes just to check out or pick up my item-- especially when i can see the item i need to pick up right in front of me!!






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To get reciprocated with positive energy which make s you feel better
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Research has found that feeling grateful is actually good for you. Here's how to foster good vibes


This is actually something I attempt to convince my significant other and my friends of doing more often.
These days, it is quite easy to get wrapped up into your own 'universe'.
You get focused on your own time restrains, your own wants and desires, and forget to take notice of the fact that you're taking a fair amount of things in your day to day life for granted.

During this past holiday season, I saw quite a lot of shoppers become impatient with employees of where they're shopping.
Shouting at them, demanding to escalate to a manager because the employee said "I will be with you in just a moment" (he was assisting another customer), and throwing their items at cashiers only to walk out are just some of the actions/reactions I've seen in the last month.
These people have forgotten how difficult it is to work in these stores around the holidays or never had to work at them to begin with.
It goes beyond this, though.

Sometimes take a moment and think about the things you have in life that others do not.
So what if someone messes up your order at a coffee shop? Why should you be hostile towards them? Can you not just state that you would like it redone in a calmer fashion?
Do you have heat on in your house?
Do you have a car that hasn't any dire issues that can get you from point A to point B?
Can you get groceries for yourself and your loved ones? Some cannot.

It goes on and on, small things that we all take for granted from time to time (even I do this).
But it's healthy to take a moment and realize that your life isn't all that terrible.
You may not have a job but you have a family taking care of you and help you get your feet on the ground again.
You may not have that $800,000 home that you've had your eye on for the last few months but you do have a house to call your own.
No matter how "bad" your life is, there's usually someone who has it just a little worse than you (and usually tons of people who have it "better").
Just take a moment and be grateful for the things you do have in life, as not everyone has them.
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This is actually something I attempt to convince my significant other and my friends of doing more often.
These days, it is quite easy to get wrapped up into your own 'universe'.
You get focused on your own time restrains, your own wants and desires, and forget to take notice of the fact that you're taking a fair amount of things in your day to day life for granted.

During this past holiday season, I saw quite a lot of shoppers become impatient with employees of where they're shopping.
Shouting at them, demanding to escalate to a manager because the employee said "I will be with you in just a moment" (he was assisting another customer), and throwing their items at cashiers only to walk out are just some of the actions/reactions I
've seen in the last month.
These people have forgotten how difficult it is to work in these stores around the holidays or never had to work at them to begin with.
It goes beyond this, though.

Sometimes take a moment and think about the things you have in life that others do not.
So what if someone messes up your order at a coffee shop? Why should you be hostile towards them? Can you not just state that you would like it redone in a calmer fashion?
Do you have heat on in your house?
Do you have a car that hasn't any dire issues that can get you from point A to point B?
Can you get groceries for yourself and your loved ones? Some cannot.

It goes on and on, small things that we all take for granted from time to time (even I do this).
But it's healthy to take a moment and realize that your life isn't all that terrible.
You may not have a job but you have a family taking care of you and help you get your feet on the ground again.
You may not have that $800,000 home that you've had your eye on for the last few months but you do have a house to call your own.
No matter how "bad" your life is, there's usually someone who has it just a little worse than you (and usually tons of people who have it "better").
Just take a moment and be grateful for the things you do have in life, as not everyone has them.


it is wal-mart? anyone paying for their items with pennies?

I avoid driving or going to the stores during the holiday season but i had no choice when our water heater died on Christmas day.. I ordered the new water heater on homedepot.com and it was ready for pickup. I got to the store expecting to be in and out within 5 minutes. I was stuck behind this one lady with multiple items and no receipt for about 12 minutes... She was holding up the line for 5-6 other customers with only 2 employees at the service counter.

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I'm very grateful thanks bro
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I'm grateful that I have verified clinical depression

On another note if you force yourself to have gratitude is it really gratitude or are you just lying to yourself? How does that influence how you show up in the world and how you feel???
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dulun18 wrote:
it is wal-mart? anyone paying for their items with pennies?


Nope.
The first few actions happened in Lowes (the hardware store).

Employee was cutting a piece of lumber for another customer (who was standing there with him).
Couple walks up, guy taps him on the shoulder.
Employee takes a few moments to respond as he was sawing and probably didn't notice a small tap, the customer tapped him again but on the head.
Employee stops sawing, turns around and says "Sir, I am currently assisting another customer. I would appreciate it if you could wait a few moments or I can contact another store representative to assist you."
Customer goes into a flurry about how it was unprofessional to ignore the first tap and that he demanded assistance immediately.
Employee stands up and says, "Would it be okay if I assist you in another three minutes or I can contact a coworker to assist you as I'm currently assisting another customer."
Customer started shouting at him, screaming about how unprofessional he is and how he demands to speak to a manager.
Employee used walkie talkie to summon shift supervisor to the location and to begin assisting irate customer.
Employee goes back to sawing and assisting the first customer who wanted lumber.
I walk by the bathroom area and he (the customer that was irate) was already screaming about wanting to speak to the actual manager of the store, that he was rudely ignored, and how he will not be treated like a poor person, etc etc.
Girlfriend and I grabbed what we were looking for, walked towards the bathroom section again - this time, the customer was walking towards me on the other side with his significant other.
"I fucking hate this place. They're so disrespectful. They don't realize I'm paying their salary. Fucking pieces of shit."
His girlfriend/wife looked mortified.

As for the throwing items, that happened in Target.
When the cashier had given him the total, the customer thought he wasn't getting some deal he thought he was.
Cashier explained that the deal was no longer valid and that it ended the day before.
He started throwing the stuff in his bag at her and then stormed out.
The thing I didn't quite get is that he already paid for his items.......and left the receipt.
Cashier laughed, I laughed, I checked out and we had a few good laughs at the guy's stupidity.


dulun18 wrote:
I avoid driving or going to the stores during the holiday season but i had no choice when our water heater died on Christmas day.. I ordered the new water heater on homedepot.com and it was ready for pickup. I got to the store expecting to be in and out within 5 minutes. I was stuck behind this one lady with multiple items and no receipt for about 12 minutes... She was holding up the line for 5-6 other customers with only 2 employees at the service counter.


This happens a lot since the "online pickup" areas in these kinds of stores are usually manned by one person.
Of course, it sounds like this customer was taking on two employees' worth of effort.
Home Depot screwed me good recently, so I'll probably stop shopping there.

Still, though.
It's good to be appreciative and grateful for the things you do have in life.
An extra 5-10 minutes of wait isn't going to kill anyone.

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This happens a lot since the "online pickup" areas in these kinds of stores are usually manned by one person.
Of course, it sounds like this customer was taking on two employees' worth of effort.
Home Depot screwed me good recently, so I'll probably stop shopping there.

Still, though.
It's good to be appreciative and grateful for the things you do have in life.
An extra 5-10 minutes of wait isn't going to kill anyone.



I'm guessing he's one of those extreme bargain shopper/coupon clippers That guy can just dispute the charge in the end since he didn't receive the items he paid for. I can see a fraudulent charge claim coming from him

There was middle age man in business attire at home depot that day. He was in a hurry so he ran over to the checkout side and asked if they could send more people over the service area to speed up the process. I think store should manage their lines more efficiently. I would send 2 employees at the check outs with no customers to help out at the service desk when there's a line. They can see what is going on within the store with the cameras so move their staff around according to speed up the process is a plus. That guy walked out with some plant he had to pick up for his wife. My guess is he is running late for work

You had a bad experience with Home Depot ? I spent about 800+ at home depot over 3 days (setting up my new heater and supplies). I couldn't get those compression fittings to work after tighten them with the wrench and soldering them.. I want to exchange them for new compression fittings but they refused to accept them without looking at my receipt. I can tell from the expression and look on their face. They are thinking I'm trying to scam them with installed/used parts.

1- I bought the compression fittings less than 12 hours ago

2- amount i spend at this store over the last 3 days

We got no hot water for 3 days when it's 35-40 degree (Phoenix Arizona), I'm wearing the same clothes for the last 3 days as i'm working on the water heater (1st time) + sleeping on the floor on my sleeping bag. The constant nagging didn't help either. My patience was paper thin at that time..

I sent an email explaining the situation to home depot. The assistant manager of that store emailed me back stating that they should accept the compression fittings giving my situation. I got the water heater up and running the night before i got the emails so i don't really care anymore. They insisted that i should come back to the store and they will "take care" of it for me but eh... after a long hot shower and a good night sleep after 3 days.. My patience is back to its max level again.

Their contractor called me about the job. I requested installation from them on the 26th, they called me on the 29th trying to set up the time to install the water heater for me (1 day later i got the water heater up and running on my own)

There's one thing that sparked my curiosity out of this whole experience though, I don't know why but all the Energy Star certified gas water heater are not available in store. You would have to order them and wait 3 weeks for them to deliver to the store and you have to pick up OR for $55 more they will deliver to your house in the same time frame. We can't wait 3 weeks so i had to pick the one level down water heater. I asked them about it why none of the energy star certified models are available in-store for pick up. I didn't get a reply back. :/ It might be the weekend so i'll give them 1-2 week to reply.

$10.33 each -- They thought i was trying to scam them for $22-ish after spending $800+ at their store.. I don't know what to do with these compression fittings with solder on them though..



**updated**

Gratitude---- i'm being tested ...I called the gas company today and they turned my gas supply off after doing a leak test. They gave me two papers listing the reason why for the shut off. I called the water heater manufacturer and waited 40 minutes to get someone to setnd a new part. They will have someone install it on Thursday... so no hot water heater for 2 days....

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um lets think

well, the only thing I can think of is getting a free home makeover..but that show was canceled so..
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The more grateful you are the more you attract things that you will be grateful for.
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I use to read affirmations that would help me practice gratitude for about 2 months quite a long time ago and from my experience I have to say...that I think it's bullshit. I'm sorry. Hear me out.

If you really want to practice gratitude and not many people will like to hear this. You may disagree with me. But you have to look at people who poorer/less fortunate then you are. Then you will never waste a single ounce of food, never waste too much power, never waste time and be satisfied with your needs met and your desires left for later.

Every time you'll say 'Thank you' to someone, you'll mean it!
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well gratitude can be difficult in this cynical world [and i'm a pretty sarcastic person to say the least] but there are many benefits to it, emotionally, mentally, which can translate to physically, and even spiritually.. the only hard part is not rolling your eyes and going back to mocking. at first it's really hard, and some things can come across as silly, but if you keep at it, things will improve. and no, a positive attitude won't instantly give you a car, but focusing on the bright side can help you notice opportunities which can lead to you one day getting the car.
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I use to read affirmations that would help me practice gratitude for about 2 months quite a long time ago and from my experience I have to say...that I think it's bullshit. I'm sorry. Hear me out.

If you really want to practice gratitude and not many people will like to hear this. You may disagree with me. But you have to look at people who poorer/less fortunate then you are. Then you will never waste a single ounce of food, never waste too much power, never waste time and be satisfied with your needs met and your desires left for later.

Every time you'll say 'Thank you' to someone, you'll mean it!


This is tough. Not all "Thank you" are really "Thank you" for me. For example.

You got some guy calling in claiming "fraud" because his now "EX" wife his credit card. She is still the authorized user on the account too Long story short- we can not dispute the charges since they are valid charges made by an authorized user. The guy could use some counseling but nonetheless.

"Thank you [insert kind words]... Have a wonderful day" End of call.



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