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Posted 1/15/19 , edited 1/15/19

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there's more of one way to do that. Sure, i can say "you have shit taste" or "you're wrong" i can also say "you know, I see this thing " and give a new reference framework that can actually change your perception about the subject, and i think the latter is the core of a meaningful connection with someone else, valid for a real, virtual, near or distant connection.
A true connection changes your world in some way because affects you in your core and yes, from that point on there's a risk of ending more cynical about some things or discover that maybe you were wrong about a certain preconception. That's what i meant about a reality check.

Now, i'm a little intrigued about which purpose is so hard to accept that you're feeling that the cost of following it is some level of social ostracism but i can completely respect it and think that it's valuable because it requires some serious guts to choose something that can leave you alone. I can tell you that on the premise that i left all my friends and work to come study on another country, not knowing fully the language and still i'm planning to do even weirder things in the future so yeah, my road makes me think that maybe I'll die alone and maybe by my own hand, but it still will be my path, and i'm ok with that.


Exactly, A meaningful connection with someone else. Someone sees my work as something to care about.


I dont choose to stray from society, society isnt giving me much of a reason to drop my own happiness in life, so why not spend my time trying to change peoples perspective or take on introducing an idea to the world.

I spent years sitting in front of someone else, now tell me whats so wrong with switching that scenario, what if I spend my life standing in front of millions. One day, somehow, any way that fits you best. No matter how idiotic that sounds, you only exist to few, or many
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Exactly, A meaningful connection with someone else. Someone sees my work as something to care about.


I dont choose to stray from society, society isnt giving me much of a reason to drop my own happiness in life, so why not spend my time trying to change peoples perspective or take on introducing an idea to the world.

I spent years sitting in front of someone else, now tell me whats so wrong with switching that scenario, what if I spend my life standing in front of millions. One day, somehow, any way that fits you best. No matter how idiotic that sounds, you only exist to few, or many


Just be careful that a life objective should not depend on the response of others. That last one should be a consequence of your true objective, otherwise your path is not yours, but more of a road that can take any detour than the rest suggest or rewards. it's your path and should be meaningful to you in order to be percieved as meaningful for others.

And it's the same with people. Good, meaninful interactions start from honest intentions. not for utilitarism (in general), and hurts when it does not work because is always a gamble
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Posted 1/16/19 , edited 1/16/19

DrowSorcerer wrote:


Humms wrote:

Exactly, A meaningful connection with someone else. Someone sees my work as something to care about.


I dont choose to stray from society, society isnt giving me much of a reason to drop my own happiness in life, so why not spend my time trying to change peoples perspective or take on introducing an idea to the world.

I spent years sitting in front of someone else, now tell me whats so wrong with switching that scenario, what if I spend my life standing in front of millions. One day, somehow, any way that fits you best. No matter how idiotic that sounds, you only exist to few, or many


Just be careful that a life objective should not depend on the response of others. That last one should be a consequence of your true objective, otherwise your path is not yours, but more of a road that can take any detour than the rest suggest or rewards. it's your path and should be meaningful to you in order to be percieved as meaningful for others.

And it's the same with people. Good, meaninful interactions start from honest intentions. not for utilitarism (in general), and hurts when it does not work because is always a gamble


You know its funny.

Walked into this girl I use to work with just now. I didnt have the greatest relationship friendship wise, and I probably left on bad terms by ignoring her friend who I was pretty close with in terms of friendship. I gave him rides home, brought in some family food, soo much I did for those people, I ask fuck all in return

You know I tried not to leave on bad terms, but that fucking job was a sweatshop, and I wanted to erase my memory and most ties, since, lets be honest, most workers there were drug addicts, or had kids, divorced, I can go on, but you know, that girl was alright, she was a tough one, but I just wanted to work and go home. That place got to me mentally

So when I seen her try to hide her face with her phone when I obviously seen her, it just made me laugh, of course i approached her to see what was up.

You know, meaningful interactions. Dont fucking bring your bullshit to me, If I wanted to ignore you I would have; I could have easily just turned my back to her, but being the person I am I went up to her. Like fuck, I try to eliminate the things holding me back and all you do is act just like all the others. Be happy I move away from such a mentally frustrating Job, and for you to get out as well.

Ill probably never see her again. I get that ignoring people will bite me in the ass, but dont sit there and make me a villain. After everything I did, a job is still a job.

My work is still my work. I bend over backwards for people, and you wonder why I just want nothing to do with most of the time. The only friends that have done something for me are still my friends, I just cant put up with the bullshit
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But social interactions, specially professional ones, are based on a thick layer of bullshit. Smiley faces, lots of individual interests and in general a system that encourages you to backstab anyone nearby. If you work in fair play and being honest might be that you won't get the same response but it will be consistent with yourself and that's the most important part. It's a tool. For your passions and therefore is secondary.
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I feel like most relationships exist through fb messager, unfortunately we live in that age.
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You guys seem to have gone through some stuff. I can actually trust my friends and not have to worry about them stabbing me in the back
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