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103 / M / Maine, USA
Posted 8/15/17 , edited 8/15/17
I am probably a few decades older than most of you all-but if I could go back and talk to myself at age 21 I would say:

1. Never, ever buy a used Ford vehicle of any kind
2. If your gut says " beware" -listen- listen hard
3. Money merely buys time and the ability to do with time what you want. Time and control of your life time- that is real wealth.
4. The cumulative power of small, incremental actions is overwhelming-be it saving 10% of every penny you make in an index fund to stretching with yoga or whatever every day. Gladwell was right-10,000 hours spent doing anything makes you world class.
5. avoid high fructose corn syrup where you can
6. ALWAYS carry a camera
7. Always look for others' motivations-there is always more going on than you can see in almost any human interaction
8. Physically Beautiful often, but not always, equals crazy. Nice lasts longer
9. Cultivate good friends (see 4 above).
10. Read a book a week. Any book.
11. Make a list EVERY year old your long term goals and be honest with yourself. Then work towards them. Do you really want to go to Thailand or would you rather hang out at home and watch anime? You would not believe the number of old people I have met not far from death who have said stuff like, " I regret never doing X" and "x" was something like driving across the country or seeing a grizzly bear or something relatively easy. I also know a couple of really wealthy people who got to age 65 and then fell apart, because acquiring money had been their life purpose. Once they had it, they had no idea where to go next and they kind of fell apart.
12. Seriously-don't leave stuff unsaid. I watched an 18 year guy bleed out once in Somalia and as he went he kept saying, " I never told Her I loved her", over and over and over again. It haunts me. Seriously.
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Posted 8/15/17 , edited 8/15/17

chaoticnerdum wrote:

I try to live by the four agreements: Don't take anything personally. Be impeccable with your word. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best.

Be accountable for your actions. Treat others how you would like to be treated. You're not always right. How you behave when you're wrong says a lot about you. It's not always about you. There's always more to learn. It's ok to make mistakes. Perspective is a beautiful thing. Less is more. Don't live outside your means. Laugh, a lot. Trust is earned, so is respect. Do the right thing even if no one is looking.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

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No one will look out for you but you. Money over everything.
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Be grateful for the small things in life.
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34 / M / Pensacola
Posted 8/15/17 , edited 8/15/17
that humans need to be destroyed before they spread to other planets.
Posted 8/15/17 , edited 8/16/17
Fuck second chances, people never change.
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Hideout #13
Posted 8/17/17 , edited 8/17/17

Sogno- wrote:

nihilloligasan wrote:

always have extra underwear on hand



those who can afford an extra pair of underwear are rich anyway
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Posted 8/17/17 , edited 8/17/17
Being happy is easy.

Don't bother to argue with people online (can't say I follow this one)

Perhaps the most important of these three: doors are bloody mind-blowing.
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33 / F / US
Posted 8/17/17 , edited 8/17/17
- You cannot change people unless they want to change. If your significant other treats you poorly, getting married, having a kid, moving, or changing your appearance will not change them. If you think to yourself that the person you truly are cannot be shown to the person you are supposed to be closest to, then they are not a match for you. It will hurt, but you will move on, and hopefully find someone that you can be comfortable and yourself around.

- Alcohol is expensive, and not worth buying huge quantities just to expel most of it and feel like you were ran over by a truck for days.

- If friends can't be around you unless there is alcohol, they are not real friends. The people that only want to drink with you and never want to be around you any other time will not last.

- Cars are expensive. It's better to get a car with a warranty of some kind. Buying a horrible car from some random person in the woods will be cheap, but will not last long. It'll cost more money than it's worth very quickly.

- In general, save your money as much as you can. Having the freedom of being an adult makes many people want to have fun and waste money on any number of things. You can still enjoy yourself, but maybe go to a cheap sushi place for your weekly night out, not the most expensive Japanese restaurant in town. These things add up, then when you have literally $4 in your bank account and bills due, you will wish you just had that cheap sushi.

- Don't eat only junk food, fast food, and highly processed food. Even if you don't gain weight, your body will eventually have problems with it. Some take a year, some take decades, but it'll still happen.
Posted 8/17/17 , edited 8/17/17

See the beauty in the world not just the bad.

Making the best of what is instead of the imagined is what's important.

How you contribute to those around you positively is what defines your legacy.

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M / Around
Posted 8/17/17 , edited 8/18/17
Always have a back up plan and a back up plan for when the back up plan don't work.
If talking can't fix it, violence probably can.
Everyone has a price.
Everyone is addicted to something.
You never truly live until you almost die.
Not everyone is meant to be happy.
Pain means you're still alive.
Superheroes don't exist.
Hard work doesn't always equal success.
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35 / M / outer wall, level...
Posted 8/17/17 , edited 8/18/17
trust you instincts.
plan for the worse, you'll need to.
watch out for the Man.
were all going to die anyways.
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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/18/17
Making a good first impression matters
Ask for directions
Do not eat too much
Do not eat too little
Do not try fake finger nails
Sadness in only temporarily
Go to school
Listen to your mother
Money isnt everything
Have "emergency toilet paper" in the bathroom
Dont get a dog
Go to the dentist regularly
Get enough sleep
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27 / M / Leanbox, Gameindu...
Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17
Moving up the social-econ ladder can be rewarding, yet lonely.
There are very few people you can really count on when it matters most
It's better to try and fail than to never have tried at all.
Don't take sides in petty arguments
If coworkers start arguing politics and they want your opinion on things just go along with whatever they are saying, trust me it's never worth it
Get a dog
Very few people care about your grades and heck sometimes even what you know. Learning how to give the answers people want to hear and expressing your interests in learning during interviews will more often than not be the more effective strategy.
Ditching consoles for PC games can save you a lot of money
Most importantly, anime is amazing, watch more of it

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27 / M
Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17

kevz_210 wrote:

Moving up the social-econ ladder can be rewarding, yet lonely.

No. When you move along the social-econ ladder with your peer group it isn't.
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