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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17
had a conversation with a former cr and friend is online flirting that is unwanted an attack?
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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 11/10/17
Only if the flirted person tells the one flirting their advances aren't welcome and then they continue to flirt. Wouldn't say an attack per se bc you can block them, 'attack' seems more extreme (creating other accounts to harass the person, for example)
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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17
It's possibly harrassment if forcibly repeated multiple times, but it's not an attack.
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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17
The word attack is too much for this. There are multiple ways to stop communication through online media, but I would say an attack is no less than a threat or an actual attack. Unless they have personal information and are blackmailing or threatening to find you in real life, then it's not really an attack per say. Other exceptions would be if they're trying to manipulate information about you maybe to others, like trying to ruin your relationships or friendships with misinformation. You can always block and unblock the person, depending on the media platform. But from what you seem to be saying I'd say it's just unwanted flirting, no more. There's obviously a limit to how far that can go as well though.
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Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17

QueenVapora wrote:

had a conversation with a former cr and friend is online flirting that is unwanted an attack?


Likely not. If he or she has repeatedly contacted you in some sharp or form with the intention or understanding that what he/she is doing will cause harm or arouse fear you might have a case of (Cyber)stalking. At least if you or the other party is from an area under Australia's jurisdiction.
Posted 8/18/17 , edited 8/19/17
Context needed in order to verify if and when, but it can be if its harrassment. In general not typically flirting is a benign and natural, I say normal occurrance.
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Posted 8/19/17 , edited 8/19/17
Yes, unless it's by me then it's fine.
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Posted 8/19/17 , edited 8/19/17
No
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Posted 8/19/17 , edited 8/19/17
Wow, of course not. How can one even suggest that? I think your friend is just asking the question in order to seem popular or cover up her insecurities.

On a different note, people will always make unwanted advances, cause they don't know if the timing is bad or not at times. There's also allowed to "mess up" or read the social signals wrong, humans make mistakes. If the species are to survive you're dependent on people willing to make such advances. Sadly enough those people are in shorter and shorter amount in recent years, and in higher demand than ever. To discourage people from making advances is the last thing we'd want to do in this day and age, that is if we are to get functional families in a modern society for the next generation.

So just muscle through it, and if you're really annoyed just tell them straight or block them! If they then move on to stalking, then you can press charges, but that's extremely rare.
Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17
its almost like real life, just don't flirt back and minimize the conversations you have with that person so they can take a hint you aren't interested.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17
Man I wish someone flirted with me online :'(
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17
No, and you shouldn't even consider such a thing.

This is the thin-skinned SJW mentality leaking into CR and we should resist it.


If you don't want to flirt with someone online tell them, you can be really clear in text. If they don't stop, mute or block them.
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17

eggrollsama wrote:

its almost like real life, just don't flirt back and minimize the conversations you have with that person so they can take a hint you aren't interested.


Why not be blunt and just tell them you're not interested. People don't always get "hints."
Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17

Why not be blunt and just tell them you're not interested. People don't always get "hints."


sometimes you don't want to loose a friendship over all
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Posted 8/20/17 , edited 8/20/17
it can be creepy and/or awkward but no not a personal attack. you can tell them to knock it out that it's creepy, or you feel uncomfortable, if they don't comply then report and/or block. it's not that big of a deal, thank goodness it's easier than real life where it's harder to make the creeps go away.
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