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A question that has popped up in my mind for 8 years
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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/21/17

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This definitely has popped up in my head over the years. You know when you can sleep at night and you stare at the ceiling just thinking about things randomly, well this is a question that probably has the most "air time" during those restless nights. Last night I was listening to pop/emo rock of the 00's wondering where it all went wrong...ahhhhhhhhhhh! Where did the earliest part of my youth go? Why couldn't I have had a cute childhood friend that was a girl??? Wait I actually did. Fuck why did she have to move away???

I was wondering if you kind people of CR could help me dive deep into the psyche of my mind to figure out this question that's been haunting me for almost half my life. Being a 21 y/o virgin has begun to put a weight on my shoulders, within 9 years I'll be a "wizard" bearing the weight similar to Atlas with nothing to gain, because gaining magical powers from being a 30 y/o virgin isn't fucking true. Carrying this weight makes it hard to step forward in life, I'm actually pretty sure I didn't grow any taller in high school cause I didn't get a girlfriend and reach to a higher level. One of my friends got laid in 9th grade during that year he shot up 6 inches, coincidence? I think not. Fuck I'm short as shit :'(

Now before any of y'all post some shit about how it doesn't matter that your a virgin, I'm just gonna stop you right here, don't even post that. Go tell someone else that since it'll fall upon deaf ears. Obviously it matters, to me! It's not just that I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin in all aspects of romance.


You know that being Virgin make you powerful! Right? I mean the day you're no longer virgin is the day your magic power disappeared! The one that take away your power is laughing at you! They're (female or male) are evil! :|
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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/21/17
Want to get laid?

1. Lower your standards
2. If you keep putting pussy on a pedestal, then stop
3. Play the numbers game. The more the merrier
4. Be savage....betas get friendzoned and they deserve it!

If this doesn't appeal to you, then don't worry it'll happen eventually. Then you'll realize sex in itself isn't nearly as important as meeting a super nice person who digs you for you and vice versa.
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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/21/17
Women HATE weak and indecisive men. If nothing else, have some courage and be bold around them.

As a longer term game plan - Lift, learn game and work on your mindset.

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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/21/17
Dude, what's the problem? Just find a brothel.
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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/21/17
So I've decided to break character
Since I dunno I'm bored, and I feel like I can help people who actually feel the way I describe in my OP or really anyone who is extremely obsessed and hung up on something.

So after reading through the trite and shitty advice provided last night. Shitty in the sense that it doesn't help. I understand y'all are well intentioned, but saying, "quit doing 'this' or stop doing 'that', or just be 'this' " isn't advice. Especially when you don't even define what "that" is, or rather even if it is advice, it's shitty advice, or even just adding-vice to someone if you catch my drift. I think when it comes to hang ups that harbor on the edge of what my melodramatic OP was going for it can't be done just by force alone, they're deeply seeded into a persons worldview, and just telling someone to chill with out proving a how of some form isn't gonna do shit. You can say don't do this or don't do that but really how do you do it?!?! Also why would you tell someone who probably doesn't have any degree of self worth/respect to just go and talk to girls and try and get into a relationship? to get laid? Do y'all really think that's a good idea? I think if someone doesn't even have much of that in themselves how the hell are they gonna be able to give that in a actual relationship let alone receive it in a healthy manner? I don't think they will and if they do happen to get into a relationship I bet it's gonna be really dysfunctional.

Now I don't expect anyone to actually care enough to write a wall of text to help a person out on the internet, cause really who wants to and in my opinion most people aren't even aware of how they do so in the first place or even capable of putting it into words. So I thought I'd give something I consider actual advice, though I doubt anyone will read this wall of text, but fuck it I'm gonna write it anyway on the off chance someone reads it and gains something from it.

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You seem focused on this topic in particular, so let me just give you something to think about.

If you're a virgin now, you'll be a virgin for many years.

You can deny that all you want, but you have already made it clear. You are insecure ( Aren't we all at some point in life, only to express feeling)

How can I help you? Stop talking about it, because talking about it leads to more thoughts and worry. The only solution is to find a way yourself, motivation and advice only go so far. If you can't do it on your own, everything else is meaningless.

My perspective. Get out of your comfort zone, people listen to you when you speak to them. Craziest concept ever, but maybe for *others* it's harder.

This is free by the way
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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/22/17
I know this is a joke and I feel like you're lying, but I'm 23 and one. Why am I such a loser lmao. Kill me please god I want to die haha
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You have nothing to worry about mate. I'm 27 years old. Never been kissed, or have done anything.. Nothing at all and I'm 6'1 and in shape. The way I see it if it happens, it happens. if it doesn't it doesn't. Too many times I have been set up by girls who pretended to have feelings for me when I was only a pin cushion. Basically they were all cheating on me with serious boyfriends while pretending to have feelings for me. I have put myself out there to the world, been myself, changed my personality so many times to see if it would work better with other people. Maybe I am just cursed but as long as you are alive there is always hope.
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Posted 8/21/17 , edited 8/22/17

Potaku wrote:

Want to get laid?

1. Lower your standards
2. If you keep putting pussy on a pedestal, then stop
3. Play the numbers game. The more the merrier
4. Be savage....betas get friendzoned and they deserve it!

If this doesn't appeal to you, then don't worry it'll happen eventually. Then you'll realize sex in itself isn't nearly as important as meeting a super nice person who digs you for you and vice versa.


This man knows.
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Posted 8/22/17 , edited 8/23/17
People are like grenades. Once the ring is out, it's no longer up to you how your life is destroyed.
Posted 8/22/17 , edited 8/23/17
Live a little , young man. Don't take any priestly vows or get SRS, stay healthy and fit, and cultivate an enhancing interest in the sex that attracts you.
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Posted 8/22/17 , edited 8/23/17
craiglist is your fren
Posted 8/23/17 , edited 8/23/17
If youre a street racer you dont need a girl, problem solved dude
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