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I don't do what you described, but I am weak to being impressed: if someone does something I find impressive, it's harder for me to see their flaws. This may be because I find most people unimpressive, though, so that if someone impresses me, it's surprising. I distinctly remember one of my wiser friends telling me that the person we had just talked to was a jerk, and I didn't notice that he was a jerk because I was so impressed by a particular thing he said. I truly appreciate having such friends, because they teach me so many things I wouldn't have realized on my own.

Also, thank you for talking about something besides politics. The personal may be political, but the political will encroach upon the personal until nothing personal is left.
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I've always thought of puppy love as the type of fluffy, carefree feelings of adoration people in a newly-formed relationship feel for each other. Also known as the 'rose period' or 'honeymoon phase'. Which usually settles down a bit after being together for a while.

I guess there are different ways to interpret it, but I don't see anything wrong with it personally. As long as it isn't taken too far.
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My encounters with it seem related to either surface admiration or ignorance, willful or otherwise.

With either, but particularly admiration, it doesn't have to be a note of romantic ideas. It can be a desire for companionship or tutelage. They see someone as delightfully or shockingly impressive because they haven't attained that quality yet or want to feel related to those qualities. From there it can be a slippery slope for the inexperienced. Always looking for that something in their desirable person, anything they do could be ignored or even be used to bring them closer and seen as something of value.

I was thinking of something PV said too. How limited interaction can make these situations far easier to fall into. It's very easy to avoid your faults in online interactions once you're developed enough to understand them. Particularly so here. I don't even feel close to where I'd want to be socially, but I could spend all day putting together a post here if I wanted. It's kind of the same way actors are celebritized. We see them where they excel, all the others involved in the production serve to improve their performance, their ideas are handed to them, they're given time to refine them, and that's almost exclusively our shallow interaction with them. The same can be experienced in person particularly with those that limit their social time for whatever reason. They could interact with others either only when confident or professionally required to and then disappear into their comfort zone.

What do I think about people that fall into this? It can be disappointing. Similar to what Tkayt said, it can build up and impassible barrier between the two removing the possibility of certain intimacies. On a positive note, I think it could help a person to grow with enough patience and guidance by the idolized, or perhaps even the rejection by the idolized might shock the person to realization while maintaining an idea of what they wanted. That is rather idealistic though.

My personal experiences? I've been on both ends several times in childhood. I'd think it rather unusual for someone to not have some firsthand knowledge in their own. I've had friends(or so I thought from my perspective) that I just couldn't get enough of beyond reason. I've had others follow my lead to the seeming dissolution of their own will. I still find impressive people that I want to more closely interact with, but I've learned to take more time and care in the approach to avoid looking like a puppy. I've also become a lot more cynical.

Mildly it can help someone grow. In extremes it's disgusting. To build any mutual relationship, you can't ignore your self worth or the other's.
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YayForKittens wrote:

I've always thought of puppy love as the type of fluffy, carefree feelings of adoration people in a newly-formed relationship feel for each other. Also known as the 'rose period' or 'honeymoon phase'. Which usually settles down a bit after being together for a while.

I guess there are different ways to interpret it, but I don't see anything wrong with it personally. As long as it isn't taken too far.


that's how i see puppy love, so i don't have a problem with it either
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This thing does not exist lol, like the alpha male stuff
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This behaviour is an alarm bell for someone with a lot of sexual and psychological disorders, they lavish affection on you and then they can't handle rejection and become extremely aggressive.
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I remember when i used to be that way, but in a more mild sense i suppose. After realizing how i was, i thought of myself as quite profound and gullible, pathetic and annoying. I came to the conclusion that "maybe i shouldn't rely so much on someone to bring me happiness, when i should focus on myself and find ways to make myself happy." The rhetoric "One must love one self before another" as PrinceJudar mentioned really does hold value in my mind to this day. Obsession isn't healthy, it's only a form of addiction that'll just drag your ass straight down to rock bottom in the long run.
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